How to find out about a man's thoughts from his lips
Would you like to read people's thoughts? This ability can be developed by carefully watching non-verbal signals sent during communication. Jack Schafer - a former special agent of the FBI, a professor of psychology, a consultant on behavioral analysis in his book "Turning on charm according to the methods of special services" says that a lot of attentive observers can be told by the lips of the interlocutor.
Fake smile
And psychologists, and just observant people for a long timeIt is known that smiles are genuine and false. Characteristic signs of a sincere smile: raised corners of the mouth and the appearance of wrinkles around the eyes. A demented smile usually leaves a curve and is not synchronous. If the person smiles sincerely, his cheeks rise, and under the eyes and at the outer corners of the eyes appear wrinkles. With a fake smile, the corners of the mouth do not rise and there are no folds around the eyes.
Sincerely people smile when their desirecommunicate - authentic. If you notice a false smile, it's a signal that something is going wrong. An artificial smile or lack of it means that a person is not interested in getting acquainted or in continuing a conversation.
Pressed lips
A man automatically presses his lips or foldstheir bow, if he is not happy with something. This mimic signal can be interpreted as disagreement or protest. Another pursed lips say that another person said something that contradicts his own thoughts. Knowing this gives you a huge advantage. Noticing that the person presses his lips until you have finished your presentation, you have a chance to make him change his mind before he has time to express his opinion aloud. Because if a person says something out loud, then he prefers to be consistent and adhere to what has been said.
For example, imagine that a husband says to his wife: "Honey, I'll prove to myself that we can afford a new car." And then you notice how your wife presses her lips. You understand that she doubts and is ready to object vigorously to you. You just need to immediately bring new arguments, until she did not have time to express her opinion aloud. Otherwise it will be almost impossible to persuade her to agree to a purchase. This technique can also be used in conversation with husbands.
Compressed lips
If the upper and lower lips of the interlocutor closelyclosed, which means that he wants to say something, but restrains himself. Suspects often, before confessing to a crime, compress their lips. They want to confess, but they involuntarily squeeze their lips to not betray themselves.
Licking of the lips
Biting the upper or lower lip is anothereloquent facial movement. At this point the interlocutor wants to say something, but for some reason does not dare to do it. This is what the old saying "bite your lip" means - to refrain from expressing your opinion.
During a conversation, try to notice thisnonverbal signal. This is a good sign in order to encourage a person to speak out. Say something like: "It looks like you have your own opinion on this. Do not share? ". Many will be surprised at your ability to read their thoughts and your attentiveness and will be glad that you show sincere interest.
Touching your lips
Touching the lips means that the personconfuses the topic of conversation. Touching the lips distracts attention from the subject under discussion and reduces anxiety. If a person touches his lips with his fingers or a pencil to feel the soil, you can clarify your assumption: "I think it's embarrassing to talk about it." Thus, you allow a person to confirm or disprove the statement and explain his reaction. And your interlocutor will be pleasantly surprised by your ability to notice such a small detail.
Touching your lips can be effectiveuse both in business and in personal communication. For example, if you are alone with a potential customer discuss the merits of the proposed product, pay attention to the fact that he pensively rubs his fingers with his lips. Noticing this gesture, say something like: "You, apparently, are confused, because you have never used such a thing before." Your words will prompt the client to express concern about the quality of the product or service. Having understood that he is worried, you will be able to adjust the offer in order to successfully sell your product.
On the materials of the book "Include charm according to the methods of special services".