Friendliness signals: how to please people without saying a word

Have you ever asked yourself the question: why does one person have the gift of attracting people to make a good impression on them, and the other, equally attractive and successful, does not have this magnetic gift? Often this happens because of subconsciously sent signals of hostility.

Former FBI special agent Jack Schafer wrotethe book "Turning the charm according to the methods of special services", which tells how to turn charm and become attractive to other people. We will tell you about three non-verbal gestures that will help you to please people without saying a word.

"Big Three" signals of friendliness

So, there is a big three signals of friendliness. If you use them, then the people around you almost surely "consider" you as an attractive and friendly person. So, meet the big three: this game with the eyebrows, the inclination of the head and the smile (moreover, it is the sincere smile that is important!)

Game of eyebrows

Playing with the eyebrows means moving them likeroutine. It means just instantly throwing them up for one sixth of a second. The human brain is structured like this: a light casting of the eyebrows, he recognizes as a signal that shows that the person is very friendly. Our brain recognizes this signal at a distance of about one and a half meters.

When you send this signal to an unknown personto a person, you as if say to him: "I am positive. You can not be afraid of me, I do not represent any threat. " Almost all people do not realize this and make this gesture unconsciously, just on the machine.

You can do the research yourself and see what happens when there are two people who are pleasant to each other. You will notice that they meet involuntarily eyebrows.

If you want to please a person whoto be away from you further than half a meter, then it's okay. This signal can be fed at a long distance. For example, if you are at a party in a large room and want to please someone at the other end of the room, then send this person a signal. If in return you receive the same signal, then the continuation of acquaintance is possible. If there is no response, it indicates a lack of interest.

Head incline

The inclination of the head to the right or to the left is regarded asa gesture that does not pose a threat. By the way, want to know why this happens? It's very simple if you tilt your head to the right or to the left, then we automatically open one of the carotid arteries located to the right or left.

And carotid arteries are known to be one of the most important elements of the circulatory system. Rupture of the carotid artery in a few minutes leads to death.

However, tilting our head, we are on a nonverballevel, we tell a person that we do not expect anything terrible from him. That is, we declare that we are not afraid that he will harm us. Notice how people who feel threaten mechanically draw their heads in their shoulders. This gesture helps us to close the carotid arteries.

So opening your neck means giving a friendly signal.

People who bow their heads to one side,seem to each other much more attractive and trustworthy. If a man approaches a woman, slightly bending her head to one side, the woman will almost certainly decide that it is more interesting than it really is. Men are organized in the same way: on the subconscious level, they consider women, bending their head to the side, more attractive.

Smile

Smile is a powerful signal of friendliness. The smiling face seems more attractive, handsome, less arrogant. Smile implies confidence, contentment and enthusiasm and, most importantly, testifies to the recognition of equality with the interlocutor. In addition, a smile helps our body produce endorphins. And the endorphins themselves make us more happy.

Do you know what kind of smile is sincere? Characterized by such a smile raised corners of the mouth, the movement of cheekbones up and the appearance of wrinkles around the eyes. If the smile is insincere, then the cheekbones may remain almost not raised, and wrinkles around the eyes do not form. By the way, here is one more tip: right-handed fake smile is visible most strongly on the right side of the mouth, and left-handers - on the left.