Problems of teenagers

Teenage age is complicated first of all forthe child itself. On the one hand - rapid physical development and puberty, on the other - psychological changes due to the "suspended state" between the world of children and the world of adults. Add here the first love, relationships with classmates (who are also teenagers with their "cockroaches" in my head), suddenly awakened craving for independence ... The world of a teenager is changing before his eyes, and to adjust to these changes is very difficult. Therefore, the problems of adolescents are understandable, although they do not become more pleasant from this.

In many cases, the problems of adolescents are related to communication and relationships - not only love, but also friendly and family. Let's start, perhaps, with problems with parents - for the parents they are "lying on the surface". Parents, however, it seems that they have a problem, not a teenager - he became unmanageable, rude, does not consider his parents an authority. But we need to understand and the teenager: he has grown up, he has already left the childhood and joined the teenage, and in the relationship with the parents nothing has changed - it is still trying to control.

Problems teenagers with parents oftencome from the fact that they are not given the right to privacy. At this age, it is very important for a teenager that he has some part of life in which he is not obliged to allow his parents. It can be your own room, which he will arrange as he likes, a personal diary. If earlier the family was the world for the child, now it is only a part of it. Right to private space and independence (within reasonable limits) will help to avoid manyproblems. Adolescents whose parents respect their right to privacy are more likely to voluntarily share with the parents details of this very private life.

No less painful (and even more) can be problems of adolescents with peers. In relations with adults, thrust suppressiona teenager to independence if not always justified, then at least it is logical. And the relationship with classmates is a relationship of equals, in theory, of course. And in practice - "all people are equal, but some are more equal than others." When a group of children simultaneously enters adolescence, the change in the structure of the collective and the struggle for leadership invariably begin. Leaders, associates, outcasts appear ...

A teenager who can not find his place inupdated team, begins to complex. For someone, this period is relatively easy (especially if, in addition to classmates, the teenager has his own social circle, where he took his place), someone is much more difficult. In very neglected cases, the problems of adolescents with peers can pour out even in suicide attempts. Therefore, it is important for parents and teachers to pay attention in time to the fact that a teenager is not all right, and gently give a helping hand.

The problems of adolescents are not limited to problemswith communication, but mostly stem from them. How do you like someone who you liked? How to learn to take responsibility (here it is, the reverse side of independence and independence)? How to make it so that other people - both peers and adults - finally start to reckon with you? Add here numerous questions concerning the intimate sphere (and they certainly will arise, because teenageage is the age of puberty) and a motley bouquet of teenage complexes - and you will understand (or rather remember) that being a teenager is not easy.

Adolescence is a problematic age forthemselves teenagers, and for their parents. But parents can cope easier: for their shoulders - life experience. But teenagers themselves often can not solve the problems of adolescents - and then they will need your help. Love, patience and support of parents are a worthy opponent to teenage problems.