Teens and parents

The main problem is that teenagers and parents differently look at the status of a teenager. For parents, he is still a child to be cared for, who must obey them. A teenager considers himself to be an adult, strives for independence and independence.

Where is the truth? As always, somewhere in the middle. Of course, a teenager can not be called fully adult. However, he is taking his first steps toward growing up, so instead of pressuring him with authority, parents must recognize his right to own opinion. Even if the final decision in a given situation is taken by the parents, they must listen to the child.

Another stumbling block for adolescents and parents is the change of authorities. If for preschoolers, children of junior and middle school age, adults (parents and teachers) are the authority, then for a teenager the main authority is his peers, he begins to be more critical of adults. Parents are trying to restore lost credibility and pressuring the teenager, forgetting that respect must also be earned.

Can teenagers and parents find a common language? Of course, yes, but it will take effortboth sides. Relationships between adolescents and parents should be based on other principles than the relationship of parents with young children. It is necessary to try to become a teenager friend, a little loosen control. Let him understand that freedom presupposes responsibility.

A teenager is learning to be an adult, he starts making his own decisions. This is a natural process that should not beto interfere with. Yes, the child will probably make mistakes, and it will be hard for parents to look at how he stuffs cones (figuratively speaking). But without this he will never learn to be independent.

Allow the child to make decisions, even if they seem unfaithful to you. What seems true to you will not necessarily be true for the child. Remember how your baby learned to walk. If he kept his hands on him all the time, he would never go himself. It is much more effective to let the child take the first steps on his own, but always be there to catch him if he falls.

Show interest in the life of the child, let him know that he is not indifferent to you. But you do not need to be too intrusive: if he does not want to talk about something, do not try. Want to - he will tell. And that he had a desire to tell you, you need to create an atmosphere of trust in the family. It is important that your child knows: no matter what happens, you will still love him.

Building relationships with a teenager, it is very important to observe the golden mean. You can not fill all lifethe space of the child, demanding from him to report on each occasion. However, one should not and completely eliminate himself from the life of a teenager, without even being interested in his life. Give the child to understand that he does not have to tell you everything that happens in his life, but you always listen to him if he wants to share something with you.

In fact, teens and parents are not so different. They just need to find the strength and try to look at the situation through the eyes of the "second side", learn to trust each other, and then they will manage to overcome this difficult period, called the transition age.