Dependencies of adolescents

Adolescence is quite complicated in the firstturn for the child. At this age it is especially important to be accepted in the circle of peers, because if you have not managed to become "your own" - you become an outcast. A rogue living oh how hard, remember at least the book "Scarecrow" or the film of the same name. To become "your" in some teenage companies, you need to smoke or drink. Starting smoking or drinking alcohol "for the company", so as not to become an outcast, the teenager is gradually drawn in, and dependence is formed.

In some cases Adolescent dependency grows from adolescent negativism. Striving to be independent of parents andseem to be an adult and independent, the teenager does everything against them ("I'll froze my mother's ears!"). If a child, say, is forbidden to smoke, constantly sniffs and regularly ransack his personal belongings in search of cigarettes, he can try smoking only out of a sense of contradiction, even if he did not intend to.

Another reason for the formation of this or that dependence of adolescents may be escapism - the desire to get away from problems. This is especially true for computer addiction: a fictional virtual world where one can be anything, attracts adolescents. Other reasons - this is an imitation of peers who have authority in the eyes of a teenager, as well as boredom and curiosity and inability to say "no."

Is it possible to prevent the development of a particular dependence of adolescents? After all, sometimes your hands go down: in schools, children are constantly told that alcohol and smoking are harmful, the reception is not dogmatic, but reasonably and with examples. But all the same, the problem of teenage addiction does not disappear anywhere. What can a parent do?

First of all, it is very important to establish a trusting relationship with the child. In general, this is the first step in solving very manyteenage problems. A child should not be afraid to talk to you. It is very important to learn how to listen to it. How many times have you dismissed his stories with phrases from the category "Do not see, I'm busy (a)!"? If the child sees that even the daily trifles that he wants to share with you are not important, he will hardly want to talk to you about serious things.

Your conversations with the child should be exactly conversations, and not remind the interrogation and examination. It is important that the child is not afraid to express his point of view: let him know that you respect his right tohis opinion, even if this opinion is sometimes mistaken. Try to control your emotions, show kindness, do not hide your care and love.

Only if you install with the childyou will be able to "get through" to him: otherwise he will perceive your attempts to talk about cigarettes and alcohol as a notation, and not as an attempt to help. It is not necessary to state ultimately to the child that the addictions of adolescents are harmful, they always say this to him. Try to explain to him that alcohol, cigarettes, the virtual world will not make it better, and even more so - will not help solve problems.

In the case, when the dependencies of teenagers are caused by boredom and thirst for new impressions, it is necessary to think out what to do with a teenager. Try to spend more time with him, but at the same time leave him time and communication with peers: in adolescence it is very important. Let's just let this communication take place in the sports section or on some creative circle. It is desirable that the child had some extracurricular activities. But, firstly, they should not take all their free time, interfere with their studies and be a burden. Secondly, they should like the teenager: if he likes to draw, and you gave it to karate, because it's "like a man", do not expect any positive result from this.

But in some cases, specialist assistance may be needed to treat that or dependence of adolescents. Your task in this case is to gently convincechild to accept this help, and not to drag him to the doctor "under escort". The child needs an ally who will support him, and not one more opponent. Be patient, because patience is the key to successful adolescent dependence treatment.