Aggression of adolescents

First you need to calm down. Aggression of adolescents is extremely unpleasant, but at the same time a natural and natural phenomenon. Knowingly adolescence is called transitional: in this period the child passes from childhood to adulthood, and this, you will agree, is not easy. Aggression of adolescents is a sign of inner discomfort and inability to own their emotions.

Aggression of adolescents can be expressed in different ways, depending on the individual characteristics of the nature of the child and the relationship in the family. What are the main forms of adolescent aggression?

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  Physical aggression: the teenager uses physical strength against other people.
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  Verbal aggression: The teenager expresses his negative feelings with words, threats, screaming, etc.
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  Irritability: the teenager is rude at the slightest occasion, becomes sharp and quick-tempered.
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  Suspicion: a teenager is negative about other people, does not trust them, believing that "everything is against him."
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  Indirect aggression: a teenager tries to express his aggression directed at someone specific, through other people (evil jokes, gossip, harassment).
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  Resentment: a teenager can take offense at the slightest occasion, and the offense can be directed at a particular person (peer or adult) or "the whole world."
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  Passive-aggressive behavior (latent aggression): a teenager does not do what is asked, or does too slowly, forgets about requests and assignments, delays time.

It is impossible to avoid teenage aggression altogether: transition age - this time is not only psychological, but also physiological changes in the body. Aggression of adolescents is largely due to puberty, and from hormones can not escape. The task of parents is to reduce the manifestations of teenage aggression to a minimumso that the child does not harm himself and others.

How to deal with manifestations of teenagers aggression? Unfortunately, not all the usual methods of combatingchild aggression in this case are effective. Children's aggression finds an outlet mainly in the family: a small child simply has no other environment. Aggression of adolescents is directed not only at family members, but also at peers, and even at "alien" adults (for example, teachers).

The first rule of suppressing teenagers' aggression is not to aggress themselves. Instead of calming the child,parental aggression often causes the effect of "snowball", only aggravating the situation. So pull yourself together. Incidentally, this also applies to the manifestation of aggression against other family members: if a teenager sees that his parents are arguing, he can take an example from them: you can, why can not I?

Try to develop an optimal style of education (if you for some reason have not done this before). Equally bad authoritarian style (excessively rigid, not taking into account the opinion and wishes of the child), and conniving (when parents, roughly speaking, spit on the child and he grows on his own), and inconsistent (parents impose bans, and then forget about them, give the child promises, but do not carry out). The optimal adopting a style of education: despite the fact that the final decisionsAdults take it, they take into account the opinion and desires of the child. If parents and impose bans - then they are understandable to the child (no "No, because I said so!").

Aggression of adolescents can be directed to another channel. Sometimes sports and creativity helptransform aggression into socially acceptable forms of behavior. In addition, self-expression through hobbies, victories and achievements can help a child get rid of inner discomfort and self-displeasure, thus eliminating the root cause of aggression.

If the child has become completely uncontrollable, shows physical aggression towards peers and even adults, may need specialist help. But keep in mind that you can not just turn the baby overhands on the psychologist and hope that he will solve all the problems. Often parents exacerbate the manifestations of teenage aggression, so, perhaps, the psychologist will advise you and something to reconsider in your behavior and relationships with the child.

Aggression of adolescents - this is perhaps the most unpleasant manifestation of adolescence, which is not easy to fight, but for loving parents there is nothing impossible!