Children's aggression

Aggression Is an active form of expression of anger thatmanifests itself in causing harm to surrounding people, animals or objects. Where does childhood aggression come from? Anger, irritation, rage - these simple human emotions are experienced not only by adults, but also by children. But the child can often express his emotions correctly. Among the main reasons the emergence of child aggression can be identified as follows:

• struggle for attention


• resentment of parents


• diffidence

What can provoke child aggression? It is sad to admit this, but oftenThe aggressive behavior of children is provoked by adults themselves. If in the family where the child is brought up, it is customary to express their emotions with aggressive methods, then the kid will very quickly be able to adopt this style of behavior. He argues that if parents can act this way, then it is possible for him.

If child aggression is not thwarted, then from a single phenomenon it will turn into a bad habit. Therefore, parents with the child It is important to learn to control his anger and rage.

But to control is not to suppress. Suppression of negative emotions is very harmful for the child's psyche (and the adult too). Accumulating negative emotions for a long time, the child can "break" at any time because of a trifle. How to teach a child how to spit out his emotions?

Exist set of receptions, allowing to make manifestations of angerharmless. For example, offer the child when he is angry, pokolotit special pillow or boxing pear. You can also offer the kid a special "leaf of anger". This is an ordinary sheet of paper with a monster painted on it - "anger". Let the child, at moments of anger, tear this sheet into small pieces or crumble it.

Helps overcome anger pronouncing one's emotions. Tell the child that when he is irritated oroffended, he can express his feelings in words. However, no offensive curses against the surrounding people, but with the help of phrases such as "Wow, how angry I am!" "Fur-trees!". You can even talk to special "non-spoken" words. Instead of "you're a fool!", Let the child say "you are a carrot!" Or some non-existent word. This technique often ends with laughter, as "swear words" are quite amusing.

To help the child cope with his anger, It is necessary to learn to notice the initial signs of this emotion. No wonder they say that children have everything "on their faceit is written ". When a child experiences severe anger, he blushes, strains, his fists clench - he seems to be preparing for an attack. When you notice the first signs of impending anger or irritation in a child, you will have time to direct his emotions to a peaceful course, without waiting for the manifestation of aggression.

The parental example is the best way to teach a child to control his anger. Therefore, the fight against child aggression willstart with yourself. In the minutes when you are upset or about to lose your temper, explain to your child your condition. For example, ask the child to leave you alone for a short time. Be sure to tell in an accessible form for the baby, what exactly caused your dissatisfaction or irritation, otherwise the child will take it personally, even if it is absolutely not to blame. Showing the child how you cope with negative emotions, you teach him to do the same.

How to punish a child for aggressive behavior? Certainly, not physical measures of influence. "Daddy's favorite belt" will not do anything good. The child only learn to "not come across" to parents. But in their absence will behave as he pleases. However, it is also impossible to leave child aggression without punishment at all. It is better to apply some kind of disciplinary punishment, for example, refuse the child to buy toys or goodies. But do not do it in anger, with the intention of offending the child.

When you scold a child for his aggression, scoldand condemn it is actions, not the child itself. It is important for any child to know that they love him, no matter what. Explain to the little bully that he is not bad, but he does it badly.

Teach the child to empathize with others it is very important to prevent aggression. Tell the kid instructive stories, where the main characters are fairy-tale characters, little animals, children. On the example of such stories, show the child how to deal with anger.

Some of the aggression in the child's behavior,beginning already with half a year is normally. This shows that the child is developing, experiencing emotions, trying to express them in an accessible way. However, if the child after the act of aggression is happy, if he invariably chooses aggression, when there are other ways of solving his problems, then it is best to contact a qualified psychologist and correct the situation by joint efforts.

"Who is forewarned is armed" - these words have already become popular wisdom. If you know that a visit to a doctor or going to a kindergarten will certainly cause the child negative emotions, it is better to prepare in advance, taking into account the features and capabilities of your child.