Love and money: A psychologist tells why a man should give money, and a woman should take them
Love and money are mutually complementary ormutually exclusive? Should a man give money? Can a woman take them? Do women need financial freedom? Disputes about the relationship between men, women and money have been under way since the time when instead of a mammoth a man began to bring money to the house. And if we consider the traditional model of the family, where a man acts as a getter, and a woman as a keeper, it would seem that everything is clear: a man gives, a woman accepts. This is natural and natural.
However, with the advent of women's emancipation andfeminism, the simple became complicated. The woman began to humiliate money ("Love is not for sale!"), And offend the man ("I'm not a purse and not an ATM!"). Everything has become so complicated that men have forgotten how to provide and bear responsibility, and women have lost their natural ability to accept money. Do not demand, do not use, namely - take! And on the ability of a woman to do this correctly in many ways depends on whether the relationship is the same harmonious balance "Give - Accept".
The energy of money between a man and a woman
The human energy structure is arrangedso that a man and a woman, complementing each other, create a harmony of life. Any interaction should be balanced by the principle of an equivalent exchange of energy. Therefore, each partner in the relationship must be able to both accept and give. Violation in this balance leads to a distortion of reality, in which the partners either change roles or remain alone. Both cases are unnatural from the standpoint of nature and entail unhappy consequences. Money is one of the important channels of energy that connects a man and a woman. If a man is not able to give his potential ("mammoth", money, protection, security), and a woman - to accept and exchange ("feed a mammoth", provide coziness, care, peace, pleasure), then the harmonious connection is destroyed, pouring into problems .
When there is no exchange of energy, ora man / woman can not give each other enough of their energy, each has to compensate for its lack at the expense of its own energies, which have a completely different purpose. Consequently, when a man is not able to give his woman bread, shelter, protection, the woman includes all her reserves and begins to work hard and to work hard to feed herself and her child. In other words, she is forced to solve problems by men's grip and strength. Her feminine energy goes into this, and she does not receive, but gives. She begins to develop men's thinking and character traits. At its core, such a woman becomes a "woman with eggs," which can both "ride the horse" and "into the burning hut", but can not love with all her heart, for it is devoid of energy. And to be whole womanly she already does not work.
Conversely, if a man does not receive from a womancaring, love, calmness, sexual pleasure, then he will begin to show passivity, inability to realize himself in the financial sphere or career, gets a mistress. A man who does not have a permanent woman and needs to be responsible (give away), as a rule, is content with small ones. His bachelor lair is deprived of comfort, he can eat from a frying pan or in a restaurant, and female sexual energy - buy on the tracks or in expensive "brothels." Money for a man is not just an attribute of power and power, it is the energy that he wants and must give to a woman. For his ability to spend money is a deep unconscious need to give. For a woman, it should be very natural to take them, because she has something that is more expensive than money.
Why women can not accept money?
Many generations of girls are brought up on maletypes of energy, and boys - for women. Displacement of energies in adult relationships occurs because to boys in childhood they are very tender and gently, overly cared for, they save them from the need to make decisions. Mom as long as possible, they carry knapsacks for their sons, open all the doors before them, challenge the father's authority and in every way protect the growing men from having to give. For girls, they define male priorities: first, successful study, and then career, public, sports, financial achievements. And even in sex, her energy should not yield to male energy. For both women and men, such a path is disastrous. Boys turn into passive players, and in a woman they see their mother, who will always eliminate the obstacles. Women, tired of being "both a horse and a bull" complain to friends, sotssetam and God God, that now the man is transferred, for which children will soon have to do too.
As for women, today their abilityto take money from men in the majority is reduced to mercantile consumerism. In turn, such women do not rush to give "owners of factories, newspapers, steamships" care, coziness and selflessness. Tasty borsch will be fed in a restaurant, housekeepers will take care of the smoothed shirts and cleanliness in the house, and babysitters will take care of the children. The young ladies "with a pretension" want to be occupied with extremely expensive gifts, shopping and social life. There is another kind of extreme in women. Girls who, as a child, lacked tenderness, affection, love, and all their lives inspired that they did not in themselves represent any value, in adulthood they would only be an attachment to men, work, children. They all their lives should all and always give, just to redeem their debt and "sin" to be a woman. These women are very hard to accept that they can be loved just like that. Children's injuries are held in their head by the "calculator", which keeps counting all the time if the man has not spent more on them than they deserve. Naturally, neither the female consumer nor the female victim is able to keep a "give-take" balance in relations with men.
Harmony of relations: Man gives - Woman takes
"Financial tenderness" - so you can call itharmony, in which there is an equivalent exchange of monetary energy. A man gives (buys, spends, gives) and does not worry that a woman will be with him until he can give. A woman, receiving (disinterestedly accepts, exchanges for sincere care, love, affection), is confident that she is "behind the stone wall", which will be with her at any age, weight or mood. Of course, many men find it very convenient to just buy love, and sell women. Modern men are slow to start a family, and ladies can easily buy a fur coat from expensive vicuña and put it on their own, provide their families and feed all the children of Africa, go to war and fly to the moon. But can they together create a relationship in which there is a place of unconditional love?
Can, if a man takes the right to bea man, and a woman will not take his role from him. The woman in general has the main mission of building a family. Her great attachment to earthly energies allows us to create the foundations of life and family traditions. Therefore, everything will turn out if the woman will allow herself to take care, protection, prosperity, and will motivate the man with her love for "hunting for mammoths"; if he realizes that taking money from a beloved man is not a humiliation, but a vital energy exchange. But just do not wait for guarantees, draw up acts of acceptance-transfer or bill! In love there are no guarantees, but, strangely enough, there is a place for money. Money, which at the energy level express mutual gratitude. And is it really a sincere "Thank you!" Answer: "I'm not selling!"?
