Life after the wedding

The relationship between the two lovers goes to a new level, when everything becomes common, joys and troubles are divided into two, there are new topics for conversation, new problems, new worries.

Of course, in our time many young peoplehow to get married, already have time to live together, and then life after the wedding does not bring them any special surprises. Well, if the relationship of a future married couple was limited only to the period of "meeting", then in this case people it is necessary to get acquainted with each other anew, reveal new facets of characters, learn the habits and habits of their second half.

Many guys and girls afraid of domestic problems, which can occur after the wedding. Indeed, such troubles can not be avoided. The main thing is not to make tragedy out of small domestic differences. Gradually, people get used to, so to speak, "get used to" each other and stop paying attention to many things.

Undoubtedly, one of the sad consequences of legal marriage can be loss of romance. Here the principle "Where does he (or she) go?"from me it will go away. " If before the wedding the guy often gave the girl flowers, then she should get used to the fact that life after the wedding will not be strewn with roses. In turn, a girl who, when meeting with a guy, tried to prove to him that she is the most beautiful, after the wedding, she can simply forget about beautiful outfits, hairstyles and make-up. Sadly, but the image of housewives of anecdotes, in hair curlers and a dressing gown, is taken from life.

Very often such confidence leads to coolingrelationships and often leads to divorce. In order not to lose that trembling feeling that prompted the couple to marry, the couple should at least sometimes make a little romance in your life after the wedding. You should periodically remind your "half" why she chose you.

Relationship ruins monotony. The standard scheme: home - work, work - the house soon gets bored. Try at least sometimes to bring into your lifelittle variety. Remember everything that you did together: try to go somewhere on the weekend or just go to the cinema together in the evening, arrange a romantic candlelight dinner, and you will see that life after the wedding has acquired new colors.

Psychologists singled out several periods of marital life, when the relationship becomes particularly tense. Such periods are called a terrible word "a crisis". Of course, for each family, the time frame and the course of the crisis are individual, but, on average, complex periods are subject to a certain pattern.

The first crisis of relations occurs in the first year after the wedding. Household disagreements, lack of attention oron the contrary, jealousy and restrictions of freedom can cause conflicts. Life after the wedding in the first year is rarely smooth and cloudless, and only mutual love and the desire to maintain a relationship will help the young family survive the crisis.

The next tense period, which darkens life after the wedding, in the third year. Usually this happens due to the appearance in the familychild. The baby attracts the attention of the parents, and they give less time to each other. For the same reason, a crisis can knock on the door of a young family and in the fifth year life together.

Seventh year of living together also considered to be a crisis. Psychologists say that it is then that the couple ends the period of recognizing each other. Spouses can not surprise their "half" any more. The positive moment that brings this "crisis year" after the wedding is that the family is finally becoming one. Couples who are safely going through the seventh year become much stronger and have less chance of divorce.

And, nevertheless, this is not the last test, which prepares life after the wedding of two lovers. Psychology knows many age crises, associated with the revaluation of values. It is important that there is a really loving and understanding second "half" next to it, and then it will be much easier to survive.

Love each other, appreciate and understand your "half." And then in old age you will remember with a smile all the trials, fallen on your life after the wedding. Rejoicing at how you managed to overcome them ... together.