Family conflicts
Family - the highest value, says unwrittentrue. The most expensive thing that a person can have is a family. The only pity is that not always the relations between the members of this "community cell" are developing smoothly. Family conflicts are a very common phenomenon and everyday. But still it is much better when this phenomenon occurs as rarely as possible.
There are family conflicts for various reasons, and even it is not always possible to understand who is the main culprit. Absolutely banal situations: a rash word, a bad mood, a mismatch of points of view in everyday things, and native people are on opposite sides of the barricade.
Scientists say that most of the conflict situations provoked by women arise precisely on the basis of everyday issues: there is no help on an economy, the husband again forgot to nail the locker door, devotes little time to the family. Men often reproach wives for excessive chatter, waste, inattention to one's own person. Often the cause of conflicts are disagreements in the upbringing of children.
Family conflicts in young couples mainlyare due to the inability, unpreparedness of people for family life. Changing habits, the appearance in the personal space of another person necessarily leads to psychological discomfort, from where many reasons for quarrels emerge. Unwillingness to obey other people's rules and break their own views on life is one of the main prerequisites for a quarrel in a young family. "Adult" couples who have already worn to each other, no longer pay attention to trifles such as unclosed toothpaste or salted borsch. But even they have family conflicts.
It is certainly impossible to avoid quarrels completely, but you can make sure that such incidents occur as rarely as possible and do not lead to undesirable consequences.
The main point that will help reduce family conflicts to a minimum is the ability to listen and understand each other. Do not try to impose your ownpoint of view, it is better to discuss it and take on board all the advice and wishes of the spouse. If there was a quarrel, first of all it is necessary not to lose self-control. Emotions are the worst enemies in the process of solving family conflicts. In no event can one defend against reproaches andaccusations, pointing out the shortcomings of your second half. It will not solve the problem, but will only exacerbate the situation, finding new and new reasons for the conflict. The result of such an emotional outburst can be the complete destruction of fragile family relations.</ p>
It is best to try in detail to understand the problem that has arisen, to determine its causes and scales. Or maybe there is no problem at all. If the spouses do not want or can not agree with one of the points of view, family conflicts are at an impasse. Do not be selfish, in any situation a compromise is possible.
The most common mistake made by spouses is involving other people in the dispute. Family conflicts are only your business, and notit is worth intervening in them someone's mother, aunt, father or grandfather. Outsiders will not help resolve the dispute, taking the point of view of one of the parties, they will help make the other's fault. But the problem from this will not disappear. In addition, an offended party may have a negative attitude towards the person involved in the dispute. For example, the spouses will reconcile, and mother-in-law will remain number one enemy son-in-law.
Do not be afraid to admit that you are wrong, sincerely ask for forgiveness and draw conclusions for the future. Family conflicts are not a sport where there is a winner and a loser. In a family quarrel two losers turn out to be winners or losers, and it depends on you who will leave it.
