Love and career: service romance
A service romance between colleagues, or, even more so,between the boss and the subordinate - what can be more piquant! This topic quickly becomes the gossip number 1 for the entire office and in the smoking rooms or during the lunch break, the discussion of the love affair of the newly baked couple does not cease.
What is a service romance? A chance to build your destiny with a loved one or is it evil in the flesh? Why have such negative attitudes developed in the service romances in society?
The main feature of the service novel is its publicity. No matter how many couples tried to hide from their ubiquitous colleagues, the secret sooner or later becomes obvious.
If you fall in love with two colleagues peerstatus and position in the office, then most likely, no one will condemn and interfere with them, unless the envious views of employees and ambiguous comments will accompany the couple all day long.
The situation is quite different if the couple is the boss andhis subordinate. Any incentives and bonuses from the bosses, promotions - all this team will regard as indulgences for the boss's favorite and will not take seriously the professional qualities of a colleague.
All psychologists and human resources experts unanimously advise to avoid official novels. But, as they say, you can not order your heart. How can it be, if a service romance is what happened to you?
The main thing, remember - work and personal relationshipscan not be confused. Therefore, you should try to leave behind the threshold of the office all personal turmoil, and the house does not carry office worries. It is necessary to refrain from the rapid manifestation of feelings in public.
Remember, now you and your chosen one - at gunpointclose attention. Now your successes and failures in the work of a colleague and superiors will somehow be associated with your service romance. Therefore, try not to give reasons for gossip.
It is best to officially announce to the team about their relationship, rather than wait until your colleagues get to know you, and even embellish your romance with a lot of fables.
You'd better let colleagues know that you, as well asand before, - a professional and perform their work regardless of personal relationships. Try to immediately stop trying to make you and your partner one whole. If colleagues need to say something to your chosen one, let them say it to him, and not pass through you.
In your team may be different people. Someone will take a lively part in your novel, to the place and out of place offering your advice and help. Someone will grumble and pursue his lips. This is their right, just try to minimize the influence of colleagues on your relationship.
If your service romance tends to end under Mendelssohn's march, then that's fine. When you settle down, the passions will be poured and colleagues will find another reason for gossip.
However, if the relationship is not formed, you are waitingnew challenges. It is very difficult to see again and again every day at work two people who only recently loved each other, and now become strangers. Unpleasant memories can turn out to be so grave that you may even want to quit.
Do not be tempted to take revengethe former Passion. Firstly, revenge still does not bring satisfaction, and secondly, your reputation at work can be seriously affected. And if you really want to take revenge - quietly live on. Your happy, blooming look is the best revenge.
