Sweet couple: how to educate twins
Two children connected by a special threadaffection - it's fine. But such a strong connection can have negative consequences: high emotional dependence on each other, the complexity of interaction with the outside world, suppression of the identity of one of the kids in a pair. How to avoid pitfalls? Psychologists specify: an individual approach is the basis of correct education.
Do not try to dress the kids alike. Lovely and touching "double" dresses are appropriate in infancy, while the twins are not yet capable of self-identification. Growing up, children learn to determine their own place in the world: copy-things reinforce an already intimate symbiosis. Kids become a kind of mirror image of each other - this leads to the suppression of individuality and identification with the brother or sister at a subconscious level. Select crumbs individual kits, listen to the wishes of everyone, develop personal tastes and preferences.
Offer children different hobbies. Saving time and effort, parents often write toddlers on the same circles, lead to the same entertainment, buy a single set of books, toys and accessories. But twins often have only an outward resemblance. Their characters, temperaments, thinking and emotions vary - this axiom should be taken into account when organizing the regime and leisure.
Eliminate the conflicts associated with the hierarchy inpair. Self-identification, among other things, requires understanding your own place in the family. Sooner or later, each of the twins wonders - how do his parents love him? Stronger or less than a brother or sister? Attempts to establish superiority, or, on the contrary, the irrevocable rupture of symbiosis are fraught with psychological trauma and neurosis. To the daddy and mum it is necessary to learn to delegate powers to kids serially and to try to spend some time with each of them separately.
