A bad example: how correctly to apply in education
Other people's mistakes can become an excellent "visualmanual "for education: they help explain the relationship between cause and effect. But a sense of proportion is needed here as never before: the thoughtless use of bad examples can lead to unexpected results. Psychologists specify: before you say - try to provide for the child's reaction.
Reception number 1: "not like everyone else." The method of opposition is quite rational: it allows the child to strengthen self-esteem, to feel himself more mature and meaningful, to smooth out annoyance and to suppress the "wrong" desire. But in the abuse of this phrase lies the catch: the child is accustomed to differentiation and any of his actions begins to be evaluated according to the invented scale of "goodness". This approach can lead to self-doubt, fears and neuroses.
Reception number 2: "you will be bad." "Do not do this, otherwise you will be injured / ill / poisoned / lost / taken away by a bad uncle" - the most usual way of educating "from the opposite". Speaking unpleasant facts, parents appeal to the instinct of self-preservation, strengthening it - in children this feeling is less developed than in adults. It is important not to cross the line by turning reasonable warnings into intimidation. An anxious, hypochondriac, afraid of everything in the world - a bad reward for trying to be safe.
Reception number 3: "think for yourself." The desire to instill in the child the skills of critical thinking and independence are laudable, but do not forget - the kids simply do not have the necessary knowledge and experience. A simple story about a bad example is not enough - it is necessary to explain to the crumb the differences and motives of bad and right actions.
