Child in primary school
Primary school, especially the first year of schooling, becomes a kind of turning point in the life of the child. Child in primary school often experiencing stress, and the task of parents - to help him if not fully cope with stress, then at least reduce it to a minimum.
When a child goes to first grade, his physical and mental load sharply increase. Daily study in combination with additionalclasses (circles, sections) - this is not carefree games for preschoolers. In addition, the social status of the child is changing, he has to learn to establish contacts with teachers and peers, and be more responsible. As a result, the child in primary school is under considerable pressure.
Adaptation of the child to school does not take place in one day and even in one week. Even children, the level of intellectual development of which is quite high, often with difficulty endure the school load. From the first day of study to the child's body, higher demands are made, the reaction to which can be expressed in fatigue, irritability, tearfulness, sleep disorders, headaches.
A Problems with studies can lead to psychological difficulties, for example, a negative attitude toward learning and teachers, a misconception about their abilities and abilities (problems with self-esteem), even to a sense of fear of the school.
In this way, a child in an elementary school experiences so-called "school stress" (scientists also call it "school shock" or"Adaptive disease"). The situation is aggravated by the fact that the beginning of schooling usually coincides with the so-called "crisis of seven years": a turning point in the development of the child, which is accompanied by significant physiological and psychological changes.
How to help a child cope with stress and adapt to schooling? Try to smooth the sharpness of the transition from the status of a preschool child to the status of a schoolboy. For example, if a child wants to take with him toschool is your favorite toy, you do not need to forbid it. A familiar subject, a kind of "part of the house", will help the child to adapt more quickly to the new environment. Usually the habit of taking to school a toy goes by itself to the second-third class.
Also important to form in the child the correct attitude to the school. Some parents use the school as aa means of intimidation "for educational purposes," and then wonder why the child is negative about the school and teachers and can not adapt to schooling in any way.
In the first weeks of training Do not overload the child with extra lessons (tutors, mugs, sections), give him timeget used to learning. Comprehensive development of the child can be done later, when you are sure that he will be able to withstand it. Remember, studies and creative activities are not all, the child should have time to communicate with peers and his own interests, not imposed on him by his parents.
Do not be too demanding on the child.. Let him know that you will love him,even if he does not study for one of the five. Recognize the child's right to make a mistake. However, one does not need to rush to the other extreme, without even being interested in his successes. It is important to find a middle ground and show it to your child: no one can be perfect, but that does not mean that you do not need to strive for the ideal.
On this side it is very difficult to balance. On the one hand, the child must learnovercome difficulties and learn from their own mistakes. On the other - in no case can you deprive him of your support in difficult situations. This applies not only to studying, but also, say, conflicts with peers: it is not necessary to solve all conflicts for the child, acting as his shield, but also to let them go in a whirl also does not follow.
The first weeks, months, and sometimes even years of schooling are rather difficult. Your task as parents is to become your child's support and support, but at the same time do not turn into a hen and teach the child to be independent.
