Being a first-grader is not easy, because the beginningschooling is a new stage in life, and not the easiest. And the task of parents is to help the child overcome this period with minimal discomfort. In this article, you will find several advice to parents of first-graders.
Often children's problems seem to us far-fetched and insignificant, but for the child, they are no less important thanfor us - the problem of "adults". What is a trifle for us, for a seven-year-old child is almost a tragedy. In addition, parents of first-graders should remember that because of the sharp need for growing up, the first-grader is experiencing a crisis of seven years, which further exacerbates the situation.
How should the first-graders' parents behave? What should I do, and what should I not do? At first, Try not to be nervous at the baby or at least not show that you are nervous. Of course, you are worried, and this is natural. But your excitement is transmitted to the child (and children are often much better than adults catch emotions), and even if he was not afraid of the school - he will start to do it.
Secondly, if possible Do not criticize his teacher's child. Of course, there are no ideal teachers. But for the first-grader, the teacher is the second authority after the parents (and sometimes the first one), and he is very painfully experiencing a situation in which he has to take someone's side. If you have questions or claims to the teacher - solve them personally with him, not devoting a child to them. Similarly, it is not necessary to discuss the financial issues associated with the school with the child.
Thirdly, do not be indifferent. Some parents of first-graders think that everything that happens in the school is the care of teachers. But this is the same your child! Be interested in his successes and failures, communicate with the teacher not only at parental meetings every six months, but also face to face, without waiting for him to call you. Parents and the school do not bring up the child "in shifts," but together.
But in this case Do not talk with the teacher at the child, especially if the child is guilty of something. The situation of "two adults per child" will only further exacerbate the stress of the first-grader. Listen to both sides separately, and only then draw conclusions. Even if the teacher is right, do not put pressure on the child, do not make him wince. Try to be gentle and diplomatic.
Parents of first-graders often think thatOn the first of September the child becomes sharply grown up. Of course, studying at school assumes a certain responsibility, which the child must learn to take on himself. But do not think that he ceases to need your love and affection - on the contrary, in the first few days of study You need his support even more than usual.
Also, parents of first-graders should remember that the child is hard not only the first month and a half of study. During the school year there are several "Critical" periods, in which working capacity decreases, andfatigue is increasing. This is the end of the second quarter before the winter holidays, the first week after the winter holidays and the middle-end of the third, longest, quarter. This, incidentally, applies not only to first-graders, but also to schoolchildren of other ages, it's just that first-graders are experiencing this most acutely.
Do not dismiss the child's complaints about poor health, immediately accusing him of feigning. In fact, not many first-graders feign a malaise to go to school (unless you yourself set an example for him, telling your boss on the phone that you have a headache). Often, complaints about the health of first-graders are associated with overwork. If the child does not complain about anything, but you see that something is wrong with him, he is distressed or depressed, do not press him. Let him calm down and he will tell everything, but while you surround him with care and affection.
Of course, this is only a small part of the advice thatyou can give the parents first-graders. A few more tips you can find in the article "Your child goes to school". And experienced parents, whose children have already graduated from the first class and overcome the crisis of seven years, we ask share experience in the comments to this article: all the same, real life experience is priceless, and they need to share with others.