How to wean a child by hand?
Since the birth of a child spends a lot of timeon my mother's hands. And this is normal. Embrace of mother and child form a strong emotional relationship between them. On the handles we are used to taking a child when he cries, is tired, can not fall asleep. However, with the growing up of the child comes a problem, how now to wean him away?
Unfortunately, a single there is no universal prescription and can not be. The first difficulty for parents who decidedto wean the child from the "pens" is their own pity. What parental heart will withstand prolonged torture with tears, cries, hysterics? And again you have to start again ... Therefore, you will have to have patience.
If you wean the child from your hands, then try to take the child in his arms so that he himself was uncomfortable. After several attempts, the child already does not want to accept such an uncomfortable position.
Do not go on about tears and hysterics. If in response to your refusal to take him in your armsthe child burst into tears, approach him, pity, stroke, hug, but do not take on the hands anyway. Calmly and patiently explain to the child that he is already big and it is very hard for you to carry it in your arms. Do not try to give examples of other children who obediently walk themselves. By this you only incite children's negativism. The child will ask for help in spite of you and everyone around you.
When do we begin to wean the child? Of course, there are periods in the life of the child, when it is necessary for him to be in the arms of his mother. Only in this way does the child feel secure and comfortable. But when the kid has stamped feet for a long time, and then suddenly starts to ask for hands - do not rush to get angry. Perhaps in this way the baby expresses his uncertainty or lack of attention on your part.
As you know, the best means of struggle - prevention. Of course, you can take the child in your arms andIt is necessary, but it should be done wisely. So, for example, if the child is naughty, then do not take it in your arms. Long-term night wakefulness for parents can also result in their habit of taking a child in their arms at the slightest suspicion of crying or whimpering at night. The child very quickly understands that the louder and longer the screaming - the more attention he is paid.
Of course you can restrain yourself and not grab hold of your handsNot every parent can cry a child. But your patience and keeping calm will not only save your nerves, but also help the child grow more independent. Successes to you in hard work under the name "education"!
