How to teach a child to fall asleep by herself

Many psychologists are sure that parents themselves are to blame for the fact that the child does not like to sleep. Sometimes tired or irritated moms and dadstry to force the child to go to bed, instead of just cradling or laying, without screaming and nerves. Thus, the child perceives a dream as something mandatory. Children do not like when something is demanded from them or forced to do something. Similarly, they do not like to eat porridge in the morning and drink milk for the night. The terrible word "need" confuses children. They know that the word "necessary" means semolina and obligatory sleep. How to teach a child to fall asleep on his own, without hysterics and fears?

Actually, it is necessary to teach a child to sleep alone in infancy. But there are more requirements to parents: do not get attached to a child, putting him to bed. Sometimes parents check several times a night, whether their child is asleep, creaking by the door, breaking the sleep of the baby.

If the child asks to leave the night light on - do not ignore this request in any case. Children who are afraid of the dark will never fall asleep. Such a dream for them will be an agony. Why traumatize the child's psyche? Apparently, he was very frightened of something and is now afraid of the dark, but with age it passes. Try to understand with understanding his request not to turn off the light.

Allow children to lay sleeping pupae and other toys. This is a wonderful motivation to sleep. "Look, the doll is already asleep. Now it's your turn. If the doll wakes up earlier - it will wake you, and you will play, but it's better if you wake it yourself. " The child will try to fall asleep as soon as possible in order to wake the doll as soon as possible, because he is now responsible for the process of playing with her. You can wake the child yourself once, holding a doll in your hands, they say, she woke up and wakes you up. A child will fall in love with a dream for such miracles. In addition, do not worry if the child talks to an imaginary friend before going to bed. He will outgrow these games of imagination, but such a dream will be desirable and stronger.

Read the child at night, communicate with him and always show tenderness. Do not say: "Quickly go to bed, to whom they said!". Try to explain to the child that you have a lot of things to do, but you put it off to play with him, and now it's his turn to give in. Try somehow fun to prepare for the procedure of sleep. Be joking, smiling, fooling around, and then patiently explain how important a dream is for a child to continue a beautiful busy day.

Explain to children about the whims of dreams. Start a special diary where you canrecord the dreams of your child. Call such a diary, for example, "Fairy-tale Dreams" or "My Own Tale." The child will be happy to tell you his dreams, wait for new ones and develop his creative abilities.

So, do not worry about how to teach a child to fall asleep on his own. Just show patience, imagination and tenderness, to turn the preparation for sleep and the very child's dream into a fairy walk that your child should take with pleasure.