Why is it important to have children under the age of 30?
In 2013, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher split. But three years before, the couple talked about the desire to have a baby. Demi Moore was 47 then, and Ashton Kutcher 32. Although they did not specify whether the child is going to conceive or adopt, their example was considered positive. Meg Jay in the book "Important Years" explains why this is not so.
After thirty the body will resist
Meg Jay says that the right age for the birth of children is 20-30 years. And she's right. Medicine has not reached the level that women easily give birth after thirty.
The complexity arises because of age restrictions: the quality of the eggs is reduced, and the system that inhibits the release of hormones is weakened. Egg cells are harder to penetrate into the wall of the uterus and mature. And under the influence of hormones, even a quality egg is not fixed.
Restrictions apply to men. Old sperm can lead to autism, schizophrenia and low intelligence in a child.
Perhaps you thought of examples of friends who managed to give birth after thirty. Do not rush to rely on such examples. Think about how many people never became parents at the age of thirty.
Reproductive medicine will not help
Unfortunately, reproductologists also do not guaranteeconception. In case of intrauterine insemination, the failure rate reaches 95. In vitro fertilization, when the sperm and the egg are first connected and then transferred to the uterus, it is more successful only by 5 percent.
To understand how difficult it is, estimate the cost of the services of reproductive medicine clinics. And the older the couple, the higher the cost.
Family relations will be weakened
Psychologists know that later birth of children is badaffects marriage. When the couple are waiting for ovulation and have sex both on schedule, hard for both. And after several courses of reproductive treatment in a couple stress settles down.
This period becomes all the more tense, if it coincides with the period of active earning money.
Think about it and that's what. When children become teenagers, your parents will grow old. You will find yourself between two generations. On the one hand, dependent children, on the other hand, are parents who need care. And you will be torn.
Health will remind you
Doctors also know about another problem. Patients who become parents after the age of thirty, sometimes ask to help them hold out for another couple of decades.
All because of the symptoms of serious diseases. Health fails, and they are afraid that they will not see how the children will graduate and get married.
Think about it now, so that your health does not stop you from waiting for the moment when the children hatch from the nest.
Time will go up
Perhaps you have seriously come to life and renouncedDo not have children until you build a career. Or, on the contrary, spend your youth on fun and traveling. The conclusion for you is one: in 20-30 years it's time to give birth, bring up and bring children to adulthood.
After the body becomes an obstacle and complicates conception, and reproductive medicine will leave only 10 percent for success.
Even if it succeeds, because of difficult births in marriagethere will be stress. In addition, we will have to share time between children and parents - so that will not stay on. Finally, health can deteriorate when children are not yet growing up.
Therefore give birth to children until you are thirty. If you are thirty or more, think about adoption better.
