Why a child lies: three mistakes of parents
Constant children's lies - not a personality featureand not a genetic deviation, but an alarm. Usually, parents ask themselves how to react to what is happening, losing sight of a much more important aspect - the origins of the situation. Child psychologists distinguish three main reasons for this behavior.
Own example is where everything starts. It is difficult to teach a child to tell the truth, if different kinds of lies are practiced in the family - from flattery to outright lies. Often parents themselves provoke the development of children's resourcefulness - not fulfilling their own promises, gossiping about acquaintances, escaping from unpleasant responsibility. The child is still incapable of distinguishing between kinds of lies-complimentary, social or salutary: for him, these are examples for imitation. If you want honesty from the baby - it is necessary, first of all, to eliminate the deceit from your own life.
Fear of punishment is the motive that is capable ofto push the child to sophisticated sophistication. Before applying educational methods, think about - perhaps they are too harsh? Assault, verbal humiliation (especially with outsiders), insults, aggression and cold boycott - those actions that have a "reverse" effect. Try to show benevolence and understanding - then the lie will disappear as useless.
The desire for approval is another consequencetoo rigid education. If the child does not get the full heat, affection and attention - he can strive to "earn" them in this way. Cursing a child trying to increase his value through fiction is obviously pointless: he just needs to give something that is so important to him. If a child realizes that he is loved and appreciated regardless of achievements, he will not need to embellish reality.
