Joint birth: for and against

Standard scheme: Mom - gives birth, dad - nervous, many years did not fail. Now in the maternity hall, if desired, almost all relatives can be admitted. Photography, video shooting, and the process of the child's appearance on the light ceases to be a mystery. On the other hand, a caring and loving husband like no one else knows what words to say, what you need to do to make a woman feel calmer and more secure. His native eyes will certainly help overcome anxiety, and gentle touches will reduce pain.

So all the same, how better to behave to future parents: agree to a joint birth, or choose a more conservative and traditional way?

In many religions there are prohibitions, according towhich the mother and the newborn should not be seen even a few family members several days after birth. This applies to the husband. Christianity, for example, for a long time forbade the participation in the birth of men, even physicians must have been women.

Times are changing, mankind is constantly looking for new approaches to solving various problems. So they decided to allow the fathers to go home. It is believed that The presence of the husband at birth significantly brings the young family together. Take a newborn in his arms in the first minutelife is happiness not only for the mother, but also for the father. Seeing the suffering of his wife during the birth of a baby, a man becomes more sensitive and responsive to her problems associated with caring for the child. Husbands who attended the birth are much more likely to change diapers, get up at night to crying baby and in general give the child much more time.

Of course, this situation can be regarded as a quite positive moment, but there is another point of view.

Psychologists say that at a subconscious level in such men waking up envy to the fact that they can not themselves produce a child in the light, regret that they can not take part in thethoracic feeding of the child. At the man the feeling of rivalry with the woman for superiority in leaving and education of the child wakes up. That often leads to serious conflicts in the family and is fraught with psychological disorders.

What is true, most husbands still do not agree on joint births. Than sometimes work of doctors in a maternity hall very much facilitate. The fact is that the male psyche is not always able to withstand the whole of what happens during childbirth. And no matter how cynical it may sound, the average man would rather faint, than support his wife at this crucial moment.

In addition, the man is indisputable will worry for his second half, and for the future offspring. And if this excitement turns out to be very strong, then it will obviously be passed on to the woman, but it's absolutely unreasonable for her to worry.

There is also a theory that joint births canaffect and sexual attraction of a man to his wife. Practice knows many cases when, after all the horrors carried over, the beloved wife ceased to be interested in a man as a woman. And often this led to divorce.

I hasten to reassure those who have already planned for themselvesjoint delivery. Negative consequences can arise only if a man is unprepared for joint or, as they are also called, family clans. If you firmly decided to give birth together, then for such pairs there are special training courses for childbirth. There you will certainly be taught what to do in order,so that the presence of the father would help, and not interfere with both the physicians and the woman in childbirth. Provide psychological training and help to avoid unpleasant consequences.

In the end, the husband's participation in childbirth is not limited to the moment of the child's birth. Future father can be close to his beloved in the transition period from fights to attempts. Maintain your wife while walking, massage your lower back. And if he feels that he is not ready to follow his wife to his relatives, he can easily wait for her in the corridor.

Agree to a joint birth or leave the future dad nervous outside the walls of the hospital - of course, you decide. Weigh all the pros and cons, concerning your family, and see whatwill outweigh. After all, the main goal pursued by partner labor is to help a woman to move this process more easily, to bring closer and strengthen a young family.