What can not be said about children?

In the old noble families, children were brought up indistance from parents. Food for the minds of children was received from teachers and tutors, in conversations with children, parents did not concern those important for the family or society, they could even switch to a foreign language during a conversation. All this was done in the name of the quiet childhood of young offspring.

Now such a policy of parents in relation toconversations in the presence of children are hardly feasible. To the services of the child is always television, where even in the daytime bloody militants "twist", discuss politics and the relationship of the sexes. Enlighten the child will always help "street". Therefore, it would be naive to believe that a child knows only what his parents tell him.

Never Do not argue with the child about the methods of his upbringing. You can always postpone the relationship until the moment the child falls asleep or walks away. The child must see the unity of parents' views on upbringing.

It is absolutely unacceptable for parents to speak ill of each other when a child is. If the mother keeps repeating the child that the fatherbad, and dad - on the contrary, the child simply loses all respect for both parents. In addition, do not forget, the child copies the parent model of building family relationships. There is a high probability that when a child grows up and creates his family, he will behave just like you.

Discuss in the presence of the child other members of the family, neighbors, co-workers? The question is not easy. Some parents allow themselves to be rude enough to speak out to other people when a child unconsciously. They just think that the child is still small and still does not understand anything. But then it is painfully embarrassing when a favorite child visiting aunt says: "Auntie, and my mother said ...".

Talking about the actions or behavior of otherswith the child it is possible with one sole purpose - to tell about it as an instructive story. If one of your friends has acted badly, together with the child consider this act, explain to the crumb that such behavior is threatened. Praise at the child of someone you know who has committed some worthy deed.

It is impossible to speak in a child's speech from the position "all around are bad, some we are good." This installation only complicates the child's communication with peers, teachers.

What about the discussion of teachers or educators? First of all, remember that from your assessmentthe attitude of the child to his teacher depends. Roughly speaking about the teacher, you are undermining his authority in the eyes of the child. Especially cautiously you should behave when the child himself complains to you about his teacher. Do these complaints have grounds? Or the kid just gets into a pose "I'm so good, but everyone insults me"? It is important to ascertain whether the child dramatizes the situation too much, in the hope of justifying his failures in this way. It is best not to rush to extremes, but try to discuss the complaint of the child with other parents.

Is it possible to talk about politics with children? In general, the political theme is very complex forchild perception. And after all from a television screen children can literally watch for hours how the high-ranking officials of the state express to each other far from compliments. It is best to teach older children to always analyze received information (and this concerns not only politics) and draw conclusions on its own.