Raising a foster child
Every child has the right to a family, to befavorite dad and mom, play with younger or older brothers and sisters, take care of the pet. But the children who grew up in the orphanage did not have this. Taking a child from the orphanage, you will naturally try to give him all your love. But very often parents are faced with the fact that fostering becomes a big problem. At first, the foster child seems simply wonderful: own mom and dad, own room,own toys. Yes, all now it! And the child behaves just wonderful. But this is only the first time. Then the adoptive parents notice that their newly made child begins to literally anger them. The child does not obey, the words of foster parents may seem to him an empty place. Where did that glorious baby go?
Raising a foster child is a very difficult process. And among other things, special attentionshould be given to the adaptation of the baby in your family. Adaptation of the adopted child in the family should be slow and unobtrusive. Understand that the things you are familiar with are alien to a new member of the family. And the child has got used to a little to other relation to itself.
From the first days do not try to give the child freedom in everything.. Children in orphanages are brought up in severity. Therefore, the child is already accustomed to rigor, as to something that goes without saying. Naturally, no one will be treated strictly with a child in the family. But be careful, since excessive tenderness can very quickly turn into uncontrollable permissiveness. The way out of this situation is: at first do not feel sorry for the child, thinking about the fact that he already had a lot to go through. Be a bit strict to him. But gradually this severity should decrease. So you give the child to adapt to your family.
The upbringing of the child in the foster family is also complicated by the fact that very often from the orphanage the kid brings about certain bad habits. To such habits are obsceneexpression. Struggle with the habit of using obscene words is necessary, but you can not do it too abruptly. Do not punish the child for his abusive language, but make remarks gently and tactfully. Be sure to show your own example, because the child repeats everything for the people who surround him. If you do not use foul language, the child will also stop using them.
Often the upbringing of the adopted child becomes very difficult, since the kid stops listening. It seems that he begins to do everything to spite you. The child commits the same offenses. In this case, do not lose your temper and get angry. Yes, the child does everything really to spite you, but only to test you. Are you surprised? But the adopted child wants to make sure that you will love him regardless of his actions.
Adoptive child in the family adapts quickly enough. But at first you should not think that the babyvery quickly emotionally attached to you. Do not make this mistake, because in fact, emotional attachment may be absent for a very long time. But also be prepared for the fact that the adopted child can not remain without you even for a short period of time. The fact is that he is afraid of being abandoned again.
Raising a foster child is very difficult. Both foster children and parents will have to go through a very difficult and long journeyuntil the good between themtrusting relationship. Often be with a child, watch his facial expressions. The more often a child begins to show emotions, the better for him and for you. This means that the adaptation of the baby is successful. If you have any reason to doubt, consult a specialist. He will definitely help you.
