Sibling rivalry
Children's jealousy is almost always manifested,when a second child is born in the family. And no matter how great the difference in age between babies, the older child will feel jealousy. And this is normal. This means that the kid loves his parents. It would be much worse if the two- or three-year-old did not react to the appearance of the younger child. It is impossible to completely exclude childish jealousy, but it is quite possible to reduce it to a minimum.
When the family is just beginning to prepare forthe birth of the younger child, the elder can already be gradually prepared for the birth of a new member of the family. You can suggest that the baby help mother prepare a baby crib for the baby's future, decorate the room. If, in connection with the birth of the second child, changes in the life of the first are planned, then these changes must occur at least a couple of months before the birth of the youngest child. This is necessary so that the older child does not feel hurt.
It is especially important to prepare an older child forThe fact that the mother at the time of delivery will be absent for some time. It should be explained to the baby that everything will be ok with her mother, she will return soon, because a child can feel a huge fear of losing her mother. While mom will be in the maternity home to the rest of the family should be especially attentive to the baby.
When a new member of the family is already at home, the mother canoffer the elder child to become her indispensable assistant. Almost all children want to grow up quickly, so mom can give the baby feasible instructions for caring for the newborn: hold the towel while bathing, serve a bottle. But it is very important not to "go too far". If the older child does not want to help caring for the baby - it is not necessary to coerce him, otherwise it can cause the child's anger and his desire to do something bad to the brother or sister.
Mom should give the older child as much as possiblemore attention. The words that the mother loves both children equally, for the child and remain words, they do not mean anything if the mother is always inaccessible. The appearance of the youngest child should as little as possible influence the usual daily routine of the elder. Still need to go for walks, draw, play together.
The older child usually tries with all his might"Win" the attention of my mother, "stolen" by the younger. "Why is everyone babbling with a baby? Because he is helpless, "the older child thinks and begins to behave as well. He can ask his mom for a pacifier, play with his infant toys, wet his panties. Mom does not need to blame him for it. It is better to show the elder how much more profitable to be an adult, how much is available to him and how little - to the kid.
Children's jealousy often takes an aggressiveshape. The elder can try to hit the baby or something else to hurt her. Parents should try not to bring the child to take out his anger on the younger, warning his aggression. Therefore, it is important to monitor the behavior of the older child and to extinguish the attacks of anger still "in the bud." If the child still hit the younger one, you can not beat him, humiliate him, otherwise later he can still repeat this action.
Rivalry between two children can not be encouraged. Parents should try to compare their children as little as possible. It is best to praise and encourage both children. Also, in conflict situations, one should not take one side, both children should be punished for joint pranks.
Children's jealousy, which was "neglected", canTo interfere with normal mutual relations of brothers and sisters even in an adult life. Therefore, parents from the very childhood should bring both children to be faithful and reliable friends. After all, in the whole world there is no one nearer and dearer than the family.
