How words and thoughts affect your actions

Internal dialogue

We are thinking, reflecting beings. It is this quality that distinguishes us from other living inhabitants of the planet. We are able to evaluate, analyze, think in logical, specific categories. We are able to use imagination, to resort to intuition and creativity, to see the whole picture, to think figuratively, to look at what is happening from the side. We are capable of thinking in a mass of different ways. We can look back and reflect on the present and the future. We know how to find information, to identify the connections between phenomena, to accurately remember the facts obtained, to build associations and to engage the widest range of emotions. Something is reflexive, thoughts appear on the machine, something - as a result of a chain of reflections, when thoughts, like bricks, rise one above the other, causing comprehension or confusion.

However, not always we use the potential of thinking for good. The limiting thoughts that we often choose affect not only the result of our actions, but also our feelings.

How do you think?

Many people think in a negative way and fill theirdialogues with words, phrases, questions, impregnated with this negative. Sometimes, in difficult situations, it should be so - it is necessary and correct. But no one from outside has the right to decide how long you feel distressed, depressed and pessimistic. Many people who survived the tragedy and traumatic experience remain in this state for too long.

What is the first thought that comes to your mind whendo you wake up in the morning? "It is time. Not this. I want to sleep. Can I lie still for five more minutes? "What do you say to yourself at breakfast? On the way to work? Before an important meeting? Before giving a presentation, speech or report? And before taking on a new project? Before a 2 km ski race? When did you make a mistake? When is the time to go to bed?

Maybe it's time to get yourself out of this state andsay: "I went through the trials, it's time to move on"? And then, every day, reinforce yourself with an inspirational speech and watch how the phrases, words and questions that droning in your head cease to be a rumble and turn into a conscious tool that will help you to recover.

Use positively charged words

Read the lines written below. The first phrase in each line is what people usually say. Through the dash listed one or two alternative options that you can use, referring to yourself and to others. One or two words - even a small change is capable of much.

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  Thank you for yesterday evening. - Thank you so much for having invited me. We had a wonderful time.


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  Have a nice day. - A great day.


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  Would you like a cup of coffee? "Would you like a cup of delicious coffee?"


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  Everything is fine. - Things are going well. - I feel fantastic.


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  I hope I succeed. - I will do it. - I know that I will succeed.


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  I have something in this meaning. "I'm very good at this." - In this business, I'm inimitable.


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  I do not think I can do it. "I think I can manage it." - I know that I will manage.


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  I hope everything goes well. - Everything will go very well. - Everything will be brilliant. - I'm sure it will be wonderful.


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  I'm exhausted. "I'm exhausted, but I can do more." I know when I can rest, so now I need to put pressure on the gas.

Any emotion can be effectively neutralizedthe opposite emotion. If you move from hope to trying to calm down and relax, then a change in mood will be inadequate and you'll still be fluttering between calm and a sense of insecurity. Show strength, move in the opposite direction - and you will achieve the real changes that will bring your mind into the right state.

Based on the book "At the Limit".