10 Tips for Finding Your Destination

Everyone in life finds himself at the crossroads "Nado"and want". Do you remember which way you chose? In fact, we make this choice every day. Everyone has a unique potential given at birth, but it depends on us whether we will develop it or not. The artist, designer and writer El Luna in his book "I have and I want to" (publishing house MIF) shares tips on how to find its destination.

It is necessary Are the opinions of others about how we should live. These are all the expectations that others impose upon us. Sometimes these must be small, seemingly harmless, they are easy to satisfy. "You should go to this party," for example. In other cases it is necessary - these are very influential systems of thought that press on us and in the most destructive form are forced to live life differently. When we have to take, we choose life for someone or something other than ourselves.

Want is different. Want - this is who we really are, what we believe in andthat we do with ourselves real. This is what it calls from the depths of the soul. These are our beliefs, passionate passions, deeply hidden desires and desires - inevitable, undeniable and inexplicable. Unlike it is necessary, I do not agree to compromises. I want to appear when we cease to correspond to other people's ideals and are heading towards our own - and this allows us to reveal our potential. I want the best choice that we can make in life.

Here are 10 ways to help you find your destination.

Realize that stealing your freedom

If you want to live a full life, if you want to befree, should first of all understand why you are not free, which prevents you from being free. The natural process of socialization requires that a person be influenced by the various you need, thus functioning as part of society. However, when growing up, it is useful to be aware of those that you have gotten genetically or through upbringing. Some should be appreciated and preserved, while others should be abandoned. It must lead to I want. You create your own prison and you can free yourself.

Try the technique of an empty chair

The technique of an empty chair was developed in the 1940syears as part of Gestalt therapy. All you need is two chairs and 15 minutes. Sit on one of the chairs. It is important to do this technique live. If you do this exercise only in your head, you can not enjoy all the positive effects. The main goal of the exercise is to talk to oneself. You can use this technique for any topic, but in this case you will need to talk to each other and want to. First, voice all that you need It is necessary. Change to another chair. Answer your own questions. Defend, be angry, shout; whatever you feel, express it. When you finish the monologue, move on and continue the conversation on behalf of Want. You will understand when to stop.

Remember how you were in childhood

Never destiny is not manifested more strongly,than in childhood. What were you like in childhood? What did they like to do? Were you a loner or preferred a company? Were independent or chosen cooperation? Were you an organizer or a dreamer? If you do not remember, call your mother or someone who knew you well in early childhood. Ask about how you were. During the conversation, take notes and save them: there are the earliest grains of your future destiny.

List all that you like doing now.

Approaching the destination will help answer the question "What do you do only because you like it?". Write as many answers as you can.

Remember what you do when you procrastinate?

This, too, will bring clarity into what your mission is.

Meet with fantasies that take your breath away

If everything was possible, what would you be doing, who would you be?

Write two obituaries

Write two versions of your obituary on differentleaflets. Do not worry about practicality. Imagine how your life will develop if you continue to follow the path already chosen. And then think about what will be in your obituary if you listen to the inner call.

Confess, why do you have butterflies in your belly?

Take time and remember everything that gives you pleasure. Use all the senses: Species, smells, sounds or sensations that make butterflies rustle in your belly.

Get a new skill every month

Learn to swim on your back, sign up foracryogi, study the childhood of Van Gogh. At first these sessions may seem unconnected with each other, but over time your interests are mixed and mutually enriched, because they have one common element - you. As the designer Charles Eames liked to say, in the end everything connects. So it will be.

Go on the way "I want" every day

Everyone has a number of obligations and time limitsrestrictions - real and imaginary. The most effective way to find your destination is to find ten minutes. Although the escape from all your obligations for the sake of a full immersion in the destination for many months sounds romantic, more difficult and reliable way - every day to slightly change the existing reality. This is a process of inclusion, not annihilation. Ten minutes can be found everywhere:
- Ten minutes while the kettle is boiling, - go ahead!
- Ten minutes, while the machine is drying clothes - forward!
- Ten minutes of advertising during a half-hour TV show - go!
- Ten minutes in traffic - forward!
- Time, which was a limitation, becomes a gift.