Dependence on others

Dependence on others and their opinions are instilled in us from an early age. Every person should be a part of society, liveand work for his benefit. Of course, society is an important aspect of every person's life, but at times in some people the perception of the social framework is greatly distorted.

Let's begin with Every society needs society up to a certain measure. Some can spend six months living a hermit in the mountains and feel great. But other days can not live without people and their opinions. So is society really so important for each of us?

Of course, it is very difficult to survive alone without society. But it is also not necessary to constantly go on about others. The problem is that the opinions of others often become more important to our own. Hence the dependence on others begins. Like any other dependence, you can overcome this psychological state. But first you need to understand the origins of this problem.

We all remember how in our childhood parents said that senior should be respected. Also it is necessary to respect their opinion and consider itwhich is known to be correct only for the reason that it is the opinion of the older person. So we learn from the very small years to obey the opinion of other people. Of course, those people whom you respect and consider authority for yourself are one thing. But not to disturb the public peace with your indignation, that, for example, you stepped on your foot and did not apologize, it's different.

Also an important role is played by empathy. In itself, this quality is verygood. You can always put yourself in the place of the interlocutor, in order to understand what it is. But if you constantly behave this way, you can become a hostage to other people. For socially dependent people, empathy is needed only to adjust to the mood and feelings of the interlocutor. Yes, you experience similar emotions with the interlocutor. But you never thought that you are so easy to control, because your own self is in the last place?

Here also it is necessary to live with constant thought "and what people will think about me?", And someone else's opinion becomes much more important to you than your own. Worst of all, due to dependence onsociety there is a fear of being different. This fear leads to the fact that a person can consciously choose in favor of what others will like, what they will approve. But their own desires will be pushed into the background. And that, their implementation will directly depend on how the public will look at them.

Many can live their whole life, calling their dependence on someone else's opinion nothing more than respect for other people. No one argues that such a life is impossible. But if it does not suit you, then it's time to change everything. So, what can you do to overcome your dependence on society:

• deal with their own problems;


• to understand yourself and decide when you can rely on the opinions of others, and when you better listen to yourself;


• understand that someone else's disapproval of anything wrong will not do you;


• to expand the circle of communication.

Let's talk a little more about each aspect. Of course, it's very difficult to take care of your problems independently. But it must be done. Understand, no one from society will not help you overcome your turmoil, since each not the first place puts onlyyourself, and not someone else. Constantly try to repeat to yourself that you have a certain problem that you can deal with yourself. Only when you deal with your problems, you will be able to understand exactly what you could rely on the opinion of society, and where it is better to listen only to yourself.

Also be aware that conversations behind your back and moralizing will not do anything to you. Physical pain is not inflicted, morally toono harm will be done. Therefore, it is enough to constantly try to seem like an ideal in the eyes of other people and try to please everyone. This simply can not be. But what personality you see yourself is more important than what others see you.

AND expand your social circle. The more opinions you hear, the more difficult it will be for you to go about the occasion of a certain person, so dependence on others and their opinions will not manifest themselves.