Children's laziness. How to deal with it?

My Nikita is sitting almost an hour without my tutelage, and hejust 4 years soon, baldeet, nothing else does. I ask: "Let's read it!" - "I do not want", - "Let's paint!", - "I do not want". - "And what, I ask, do you want?" - "I do not want anything!". Familiar?

What is this apathy (in 4 years), a bad mood,fatigue or just too lazy to do something, move, create, invent, try? Almost every adult who has or had children can not say that his child has never been lazy. And almost everyone thinks that you can overcome this laziness by any available means! It's a pity that everyone understands these methods and methods in their own way.

What are the roots of laziness? How can they be detected and neutralized in the initial stage, until they become a habit?

Sometimes I just want to yell, punish, putin a corner, and, what's the real sin, conceal the twig, or even the tried and tested "grandfather's" - "daddy" belt ... But these methods are not always helped and not all children. It is easy to coerce, subordinate a little man to fulfill your will, but to teach how to break this notorious laziness-mother, who was born before us, does not work. Most often these methods turn into embarrassment and misunderstanding, and sometimes separate children and parents for long years of alienation and coldness. So, we need to find something different in ways that the interests and desires of both parties coincide: parents - the desired result, the child's lively participation and interest.

Do I have to reinvent the wheel? Maybe there is some ready-made recipe for fighting this sugary tyagomy?

One of my friends, creatively reworking the episodefrom the "Gentlemen of Fortune" came up with a way, playing to make his son wash dishes, clean toys, put scattered things. You can arrange a game of race with the personal participation of one of the parents. In general, there is an unlimited number of options. True, you will have to change the repertoire from time to time.
But the games will help fight laziness in the lazy yearsedak to 10. And then laziness is part of a difficultly correctable habit, the struggle with which can develop into a real psychological war with "dripping on brains" and outright sabotage ... And yet one must somehow get along, be more tolerant and more enduring than a small terrorist.

At an older age a very good way to fightwith laziness can become serious tasks and a serious responsibility for household chores. Child psychologists say that children can help children from an early age.

You just need to give them feasible, understandable tasks and be sure to monitor their performance to the end.

A good help in the struggle is also given to sports. Sometimes a good example is a personal example or an example from the life of idols.

Sometimes the manifestation of childish laziness can be simplefatigue. It seems to you that the child is lazy, but he just wants to rest. Be patient and attentive, do not get irritated, but just talk to your child.

In any case, remember that laziness is not the most terrible thing in life!