How to become kinder

Often, kindness is perceived as some kind of innate quality - it either is, or it is not. But actually kindness is our attitude towards other people, which is developed over time. And very much depends on how we perceive the world around us. So it's quite real to become kinder. Here are some tips on how to become kinder.

Very often we perceive what we have, as something taken for granted. But in fact, what we have, we are someone or something obliged - even to ourselves. So do not be lazy. every day to think about who or what should be thanked for what your life is, what it is.

By the way, about the thanks. If you want to become kinder, do not keep gratitude to yourself. Say thanks!"And it's not so difficult to smile, but how much joy it brings to other people. Of course, you can always say to yourself: "Why should I thank the seller or the taxi driver, he just does his job." But a kind word to a cat is pleasant, but to a man - so much the more. The world is held not only on commodity-money relations, but (and to a much greater extent) on human.

And do not hold compliments. How often do we focus on small things,which annoy us in people, but at the same time, we do not notice that we like them in emphasis. Do not be afraid to do to others sincere compliments: this will raise the mood not only to the person to whom you made a compliment, but to yourself. And after compliments, you can go further and start doing little good deeds: after all, it's not so difficult, say, to hold the door of an entrance in front of an elderly person. And the effect is the same: it's nice for you and for someone you helped.

Becoming kinder is hindered by the habit of judging othersof people. So hard not to succumb to the temptation to explain to someone how and where he is wrong. But only in this world is always someone wrong, and that now - for everyone to spend their spiritual strengths? Besides, tomorrow you can be condemned in the same way - you hardly like it. So that more often remember the old truth: "Do not judge and you will not be judged".

Do not confuse condemnation with criticism. In some cases, criticism is necessary, but it must be constructive. The task of criticism is to point out mistakes to a person and help him to correct them, rather than humiliate him. So that when criticizing someone, be very careful not to offend a person.

To become kinder, You need to be sympathetic to someone else's point of view. All people are different, and every day we go throughmeet with those whose viewpoint and view of the world are different from ours. Instead of perceiving someone else's point of view with bayonets, listen to her and try to understand. This will help to avoid unnecessary conflicts. In addition, your picture of the world will be incomplete if the place in it is only your point of view.

Conflicts generally should be avoided whenever possible. This, of course, does not mean that you must with allagree and sag under all. Simply if you see that a person is unlikely to be persuaded, do not waste your time and energy on it. Better use them for good deeds.

Finally, to become kinder to people, you need to become kinder to yourself. How often do we do self-flagellation,we put forward to ourselves hard-to-fulfill demands, concentrate on our shortcomings and misses! But to see the good in people, you need to be able to see the good in yourself. To make others feel pleasant, you must remember to please yourself. Love yourself, and you will see how much easier it is to become kinder to people after this.