How to become girlfriends

Let the men say as much as they please that there is no real friendship between women, but in reality, real friendship does not depend on gender. It's just that friendships are often taken for friendship: gatherings in cafes, joint shopping,gossip. All that, thanks to which female friendship deserved a skeptical attitude. But true friendship is first of all mutual understanding and mutual support. How to become girlfriends for real?

To two people who do not have any "points of contact" at all, it will not be easy to become friends, because friendship grows out of friendly relations and common interests. Therefore, in the initial stage, you should havecommon themes for conversation. But suppose that you already have friendly relations and common interests - it's hard to imagine the desire to become friends with a complete stranger (although this happens).

To become girlfriends, you need to forget about stereotypesand misconceptions concerning friendship. One of them is that friends should always tell each other the truth. Of course, in real friendship there is no place for lies. But the truth can be presented in different ways. Sometimes the truth pronounced by "friends" borders on rudeness. "What a terrible dress!", "You have recovered so much lately!". The status of the girlfriend does not give the right not to watch expressions and tone. And if your friendship is just beginning, it can scare off a potential girlfriend.

Of course, this does not mean that there is no criticism in friendly relations and unconcealed flattery prevails. You just have to criticize gently and in no case to impose a point of view. By the way, The second common mistake, often committed when trying to make friends, is advice bordering on instructions. Do not dictate to your girlfriend what to do. Your business is to give advice, but do not insist on following it. After all, your girlfriend is an adult who can decide for himself.

If you want to become friends with a person, forget about competition. To be happy with the failures of a friend is the last thing. Of course, an easy competition moment in friendly relations can be present, but to put the person on the footboard (figuratively speaking) and share the guys with him is not friendship at all.

It is important to remember that friendship is practically a family relationship in which you promise to be with your soul mate "in sorrow and in joy". It is easy to call a person your friend whenBoth of you are fine. But if you need real friendship, be prepared to always fulfill your girlfriend's promises, take into account her interests and support in a difficult moment. Of course, she, in turn, should do all this for you.

Pledges of true friendship are indulgence towards(we do not need to idealize a friend, we are all people with our shortcomings), loyalty (not to gossip behind a friend, not to disclose her secrets and secrets), honesty, the ability to admit mistakes and forgive a friend for his. True friends do not happen much - there can be many comrades and friends.

Finally, a simple and banal, but time-tested way to become friends with a person who you like - it is to treat him the way you want him to treat you. Sincere good attitude always haspeople: they see that you are attracted to their personality, and not some benefit. So if you really sympathize with a person, do not be afraid to show it to him, but do not force yourself on it. Then you will certainly get to be friends!