The daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law

Surprisingly, according to statistics, 90% of all quarrels and problems in families are taken by the tandem "daughter-in-law and mother-in-law". Intergenerational conflicts, led by these two

women become rather not a separate historical fact, but an everyday reality. Why is this happening? There can be many answers.
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The main cause of conflicts can be the most common competition. Subconscious competition for one man (son and

husband) often leads to quarrels, misunderstandings and disagreements. Adds oil to the fire and Cohabitation on one living space. Here already

the question arises, "Who is the master of the house?" For obvious reasons, the mother-in-law considers it her duty to take the reins of government into her own hands, teaching and criticizing the young

generation.

The most surprising is that in the conflict "daughter-in-law and mother-in-law" everyone considers himself right, and, to some extent, a victim of circumstances.

Several rules for co-survival: daughter-in-law and mother-in-law

For the daughter-in-law. You are the new man in the family of the husband. And you have to put up with some rules that have already been taken in your husband's house.

As they say - they do not go to their own monastery with their charter.

Of course, any woman wants to be a mistress in her own apartment. But if so there were circumstances, that you do not yet have the opportunity to move into a separate

apartment, even if removable, will have to learn to live with her husband's parents.

Be prepared that you will have to "get used to" each other for a while. Do not panic, do not despair - Moscow, too, was not immediately built.

To begin with, you must remember that Your mother-in-law is your mother's mother, and for her the welfare and success of her son is very important. Therefore, how

you can often praise your husband in the presence of his mother. And if you still consult on any issues with your mother-in-law, consider that you already

made friends. If your mother-in-law will taste, and her advice will be endless - tell her that you want to try and in a different way, not forgetting to thank.

Treat your mother-in-law as a close person. Irritability and hot-temperedness, common to many women, can be the result of fatigue or

age-related changes in the body. Maybe it's better to ask about health and help?

Take on some responsibilities for home. It will be better if you ask yourself what and how to do. It's clear that you can do much

not like, but who said it would be easy?

In order not to become a party to the conflict, it is better to change the topic of the conversation or even go for a walk. Of course, both the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law have the right to their point

but your task is not to provoke scandals and get away from conflicts.

Do not constantly complain to your husband about his mother, make claims and swing rights. It is possible that before the condition "I or

your mother ", he will choose his mother.

If you live separately from the parents of the husband, do not forget to call your mother-in-law on a regular basis and take an interest in her health and affairs. Believe me, sometimes

"Mums" nothing more for happiness and do not.

Learn to be wise and judicious. Who knows, maybe you will someday become a mother-in-law?

For mother-in-law. You are much easier in tandem "daughter-in-law and mother-in-law" than you think. You, an experienced woman, can easily leave

a difficult situation with the daughter-in-law. You do not need to see her as an opponent. On the contrary, this is the chosen one of your precious son. And by the way, you do not have to like it.

Take it as your own daughter. Such as it is.

Believe me, your daughter-in-law is very difficult to join your family, and it is you who should help her. Try to share chores around the house,

discuss the menu for a family dinner, praise for any little things, do a little bridesmaids gift (you can just buy ice cream or chocolate) and do not impose

her own tastes.

In a word, become her friend, why would you not worth it. You are a wise and patient woman, and you understand that it depends on your relationship with your daughter-in-law

family happiness of your son! After all daughter-in-law and mother-in-law all the same native people.