Conflicts with children

Psychologists singled out several types of family conflicts, which parents may encounter inthe process of raising children. And do not assume that the older your child becomes, the more often there can be various quarrels. In fact, conflicts with children begin at any age.

Conflict of Trusteeship

This kind of conflict occurs in families where parents are too stubbornly taking care of their child. Already from a small age of mom and dad soworry that the child ate all his gruel, did not catch a cold while walking on the street, did not go out to walk alone, because there may be hooligans ... You can still pick up a lot of such situations. The care of parents is, of course, good. But excessive care leads to the fact that the child grows up to be a weak-willed being who will not have his own opinion. How else? After all, everything was always done by his parents.

The school also starts a certain kind of problem. After all, the child absolutely will not exerciseinitiative. Being a teenager and realizing that parental care simply crushes any desire to do something, the child will suffer with the family. For him, nothing will be worse than living with his parents. But, unfortunately, the child can not leave to live independently, because excessive care and protection from problems made your child absolutely unprepared for life. Similar conflicts between children and their parents can be noticed very often in families where mothers and dads try to keep their emotional intimacy with their son or daughter.

Neutral zone

Conflicts with children can exist in families where there is a non-interventionism. Giving the child complete freedom to do everything that hewill want, and not wielding in his problems, the parents protect themselves from the private life of their children. Such a neutral attitude towards the child can be countered by the above-described conflict of guardianship. But only in this case, modern parents try to instil in children independence and freedom of choice. As a result, it turns out that in any family problems, when it is required to participate each member of the family, you can expect that the child will stand by. How else? After all, parents have never been interested in the life, problems and experiences of the child. It is from here that such a conflict with a teenager will begin.

Several children

Some conflicts with children are only due to the fact that The older child can feel to some extent deprived of parental attention and care. At the same time, most of the love, in the opinion ofthe older child, will be given to a younger brother or sister. But this is only one side of the coin. The problems of parents and children can be much more serious. After all, the youngest child can be constantly unhappy that he has to wear clothes for the elders. Agree that such situations can often be observed in a family where there are several children, and finance does not allow to have all the best and new.

Of course, Such conflicts with children will not last forever. They will end by themselves only when the youngest child reaches adolescence. Therefore, be patient and try to listen to the complaints and offenses of all children.

Parents-dictators

And imagine the situation when parents believe that dictatorship is the best way to control their children. Of course, you can achieve full controlover all members of the family. This approach of education leads to the fact that children will not have the right to choose. After all, since their childhood, parents have forbidden them to do anything without the knowledge of their parents.

And how will such a child grow up? Already in adolescence, you can see that your child will turn into despot, boor and cynic. To avoid this, the child should be given the right to choose the music he wants to listen to, the friends he will communicate with, and even the things he will wear.

Resolution of family conflicts can only be expected if, When parents understand exactly where they were wrong. So try to reconsider nowmethods of your upbringing. Do not subject children to excessive guardianship, do not try to become dictators, and do not stay away. Partnership is the best way to raise children. Survive with them all the joys and sorrows. Empathize with their problems and share with them what is painful for you. Together, hope for something and make plans for the future. And you will see how any conflicts with children will go to the past.