From what does the child have stress?

Determine the presence of stress in a child can besharp changes in his behavior, the child becomes "unrecognizable" and "uncontrollable." A sign of stress can be a frequent and sharp change in the mood of the child, some psychosomatic disorders (general weakness, fatigue, nausea, vomiting, etc.).

Stress in a child at different ages can be caused by different causes and manifestdifferently. Thus, in infants and children under two years of age, stress can be caused by illness, separation from loved ones, even short-term ones. Also, children react very sharply to the experiences of parents and can "get infected" by their stress.

Symptoms of stress can act: increased irritability, sudden changes in appetite until eating, sleep disturbance. Help the child to cope with the stressful situation can various games, especially hide and seek. Hide and seek teach the child to believe that, despite a temporary absence, mom or dad always come back.

At the age of from 2 to 5 years the need for separation from relatives, for example, when visiting a kindergarten, changes in the usual way of life, a visit to a doctor or a hairdresser - these factors can also cause stress.

Stress is manifested in children of this ageexcessive fears, aggression, uncontrolled outbursts of anger and irritation, stammering, increased "tearfulness". Also a child may have a so-called. Behavioral regression - a return to earlier stages of development. For example, a child begins to ask for a pacifier or urinate in bed, sucking a finger.

The child is still difficult to express their feelings andexperience words, so parents to find out the reason for what is happening, it is important to listen to the conversations that the child is carrying with his toys. In the game, the child loses an important situation for himself, and in conversations with toys he is more frank than with his parents.

Good helps relieve stress fast, mechanical drawing with bright colors,possibility of plenty to scream. It is necessary to limit the time the child watches TV - it is important that the child at least a couple of hours a day spent quiet quiet games, for the book.

Since the beginning of the school's visit to the child new loads begin, to the childnew requirements are raised. During this period, children are very vulnerable to stress. High (sometimes even too much) expectations of parents and the child's great desire to meet these expectations, conflicts with classmates or teachers - all this can lead to stress.

Recognize stress at this age can be due to unexplained pain andvisible reasons, the unwillingness of a child to attend school or communicate with other children. Nervous movements, low self-esteem, impaired appetite and sleep, lag in learning - this can also be signs of stress.

How to find out the cause of stress? You can go with the child to the cinema or for a walk -far away from the home (perhaps, disgusting) situation, a child can talk. With the help of role-playing games, drawing can be "replayed" a stressful situation. In the game or in the picture the child can imagine how he would behave in this or that case.

A child of adolescent and senior school age - this is almost a mature adultpersonality. It is not surprising that his experiences approach the experience of an adult: concern for his future, relationships with others ...

Signs of stress in adolescents also practically do not differ from "adults". A teenager can feel immensely lonely, unsure of himself, he has lost the desire to communicate with people. He becomes excessively irritable, quick-tempered, the mood changes drastically from up to deep depression, there is an inexplicable anxiety, obsessive action.

How to help a teenager cope with stress? It is important to "talk" the child. If he does not want to tell himself about his problems, you can "go from afar", i.e. start a conversation on some extraneous topics, carefully translating the conversation into the right direction. You can "lose" with the child what happened, but in your "play" there will be a happy ending.

Do not tell your child during the stress period aboutits insolvency. Phrases such as "shake yourself, you must be strong" make a child feel guilty without guilt. Parents should give the child an opportunity to understand that they love him no matter what. Help it is better to offer unobtrusively, emphasizing that parents are always there when necessary, but they leave the child with the right to decide for himself.