How to forgive insult

Forgiveness of grievances is a very difficult matter, especially when you can feel this insidestrong anger at the offender ... How can I forgive a villain who resigned to tell you such vile things? Sometimes it seems that this is impossible, but you can not always be offended. And there is a reason for this.

When a person is hurt, his the body is in a state of stress. At the same time, all negative emotions affectthe psyche. If you too long to be exposed to such negative emotions, you can either seriously get sick, or get mental disorders, such as neuroses. Gradually, a person begins to feel that not only does his health deteriorate. There comes such a feeling that there is no joy in life, for all is offended by offense against friends or relatives. All attempts to escape, hide from resentment will be doomed to failure.

What happens to a person when he is offended, and why is it so important to know how to forgive an insult? The fact is that almost never people do not seek to offend each other intentionally. Just listening to a statement, for example, yourgirlfriend, you might be offended, although she did not really understand what was wrong. The fact is that this is not an offense to a friend, but to yourself. At the same time, there is a surge of negative emotions inside of you, one of the components of which is aggression.

The problem is that aggression can be directed both inside of you, and on other people. If aggression is directed outward, there arescandal and fight. But if aggression is directed inward, here is where the resentment appears. In this case, it should be noted that the more aggression will be directed inward, the more grievous will be. Why is aggression directed inside? Yes, because in the expression of your interlocutor expressed to you, you heard something that you do not like in yourself. Hence, there is an insult, which rather goes not to the interlocutor, but to yourself, only for the fact that someone noticed in you certain negative features that you can not or do not want to correct.

You can say that there are some people who are not touchy. In fact, this is not so. Each person is akin to a sense of resentment. Just some people do not attach much importance to the words of others. But do not forget that each person has certain places for which, as they say, you can hook. It's just that some of these weaknesses are fewer, while others have more. Naturally, such people can easily be offended. And these people will be offended for a long time, which may soon affect their relationship with their loved ones. To prevent this from happening, everyone should know how to forgive an insult.

Forgiveness is sometimes too difficult. One word "forgive" is so hard to say to your loved onesus to people. But the whole point is that you can understand the truth of your abuser. From this it is simply impossible to forgive this person. How to be in this case? How can I forgive?

First you need to work on yourself. Remember, was someone ever hurt at you? Did you feel guilty at this time? Now imagine what your abuser feels. Most likely, this is not a feeling of remorse.

Also you should think about what exactly you are offended: to the offender's words or to the fact that he really turned out to be right. Maybe inside you really have those qualities that pushed your abuser to speak in this way.

Think, did all of you easily forgive you, which you offended? Probably not.

But still, not only introspection will help you forgive offense. You also need to adjust yourself to the fact thatyou no longer take offense at anyone. To do this, think about all your grievances that may have been sitting in you for a very long time. Remember your childish grievances. Why did you take offense at your parents, brothers, sisters, friends? When you remember all the wrongs, you can start forgiving. For this it is enough to perform a very simple exercise every evening when you go to bed.

Begin with childish grievances, because they are harder to forgiveTotal. Every day imagine a man who once offended you, and mentally tell him: "I forgive you and let go." Really, forgive this man. Then you will feel that you have become a little easier. But the main rule of this exercise is that you really must forgive. The next evening, remember one more offense and forgive your offender's application. Thus, you release all the insult that has accumulated in you for many years. Now offending you will be much harder, because you do not have negative emotions that can turn into aggression directed inside you.