How correctly to refuse the child?

For a small child the word "no" is associated with the concept of "never". Saying "no" to a child, you are as if telling him,that it is "no" - forever. Try to line up the phrase a little differently. For example, replace the word "no" with the words "possible", "probably", "maybe" and you leave the child with the hope of changing the situation for the better.

When you refuse a child something, be sympathetic and supportive. Then the child will understand that you are refusing to him not because you do not love.

There are still babies who can not read and count, will not understand your arguments about the high cost of a new toy. For them, the concepts of "cheap" and "expensive" do not mean anything. Try to come up with more understandable to the child arguments.

If a child wants to buy a toy while you are in the store, you can try to shift his attention. For example, if a child requires a tenth machine or a doll, try to offer him something else. Or pay his attention to those toys that he already has.

The favorite means of achieving one's own for the child is hysterics. He will shamelessly arrange it for you inpublic place: transport, store. Do not go on about the hysterical never! Next time the "concert" will be even louder and more prolonged, until the kid gets his way. If your child cried out in the store, then calmly explain to him that if from continuing bad behavior, you generally leave the store without shopping. And keep your word. The child should make sure that you do not just intimidate him, but really do what you said. Then the desire to check you for "strength" he will not arise.

If a child requires a new toy, but its price"bites", try to explain that you can not afford a toy. Tell the child that in order to buy such a toy, the father and mother will have to work very long to accumulate on a toy, and at the same time not to eat or drink. Ask, does he agree to such sacrifices? You can also explain to the child that this oneThe toy costs as much as all his toys combined. Invite the baby to collect all his toys and give them in exchange for the required. Explain that instead of all-all toys he will get only one!

In some cases buying expensive toys is acceptable, for example, as a gift for the New Year or the birthday of the baby. In these cases, tell the child that you do not refuse to buy it, but just postpone it a little.

If the child asks to buy him absolutely unnecessary (from your point of view) toy hethrow in a couple of days, then here too the switching of attention will help. Remember together with the child that he already has a similar toy. Tell us how lonely and boring is the toy, which no one is playing.

The ability to refuse correctly is given with difficulty. It's always easier to say "No, that's it!" From the position of an adult, than to explain the reason for refusing the child for a long time. But your patience, love and understanding will help you cope with this difficult problem!

Based on the book by B. Bach "Your baby is a person. Practical advice to parents ", publishing house: AST-Stalker, 2008.