If the child does not obey, punish or not?
Many parents for sure at least oncehad to punish his child for disobedience. Each parent has methods of punishment. Someone in punishment deprives the child of his favorite toys or goodies, and someone grabs the strap. But is it necessary to punish a child? How to do it right?
Disobedience is easier to prevent than to try to remedy the situation. Here are some tips on how not to bring the matter to a standstill.
At first, set certain rules for the child. Rules or restrictions must be mandatoryto be present in the life of the baby. For example, elementary: do not run out onto the roadway, do not go to the stove, do not stick out the window. Observance of these rules is the guarantee of the safety of the baby. However, if the child's prohibitions are explained simply by the categorical "No" or "So it is necessary, because I so command", then he may not obey simply because he does not understand the essence of the ban.
Secondly, the number of rules and restrictions for the child should be small, in accordance with his age. For example, the smallest explain that mom and other adults or children can not beat and bite. And older children will already understand why you can not indulge in a visit or in a shop.
Thirdly, Do not break your own rules. If today you forbade the baby to stick out of the window, and tomorrow put it on the window sill and ask to wave the handle of the departing grandmother, then the child may get confused.
Do not allow other family members to violate established rules and restrictions. After all, when the mother says one thing, the father is different, and the grandmother is the third, the child does not know who he really should listen to. Discuss all the rules in advance and work out a joint solution.
Do not forbid the child to do things natural for his age. Yes, you do not like what will happen in the nextjust wash the only naked panties, but in fact to run and jump - the natural needs of a growing baby. If your little one wants so much to paddle in puddles, do not forbid it to him, but just suggest putting on rubber boots. If the child wants to play with the ball, let him play, but away from the neighboring windows and the roadway.
Try to tell your child your demand or prohibition in an angry tone, but amicably. You will see that the children's friendly requestsperform much more willingly than imperative orders. If you peacefully explain to your child your prohibition, then he will not have a desire not to obey you for spite.
If nevertheless it was not possible to prevent disobedience, then to go unpunished too it is impossible. If the child sees that for violation of the rules he will not have anything, then these rules he will not put in a penny. Another thing is how to punish a child for misconduct.
Many parents still believe that the strap is the best cure for child disobedience. But imagine, what would happen if you were beaten with a belt at work for every mistake? It's ridiculous to even imagine ... Physical punishment enrages the child, causes feelings of resentment. The child grows aggressive, with the conviction that strength decides everything.
Try to choose another method for punishment. It is important to let the child understand that one has to answer for one's actions. For example, he broke the machine of the neighbor boy Kolya. Explain to your child that since Kolya has now left without a toy, he will have to give his. Next time the child will not be so careless in dealing with other people's toys.
It often happens that parents resort to physical punishment in a temper. And then they regret the incident and begin to beguile the child, allowing him everything. It is not right. Yes, you could not resist and very offended the baby. But if you start to indulge all his whims, then all of your previous efforts went down the drain.
By the way, thoughtless actions of the heat are the trouble of many parents. In order not to do things, first of all, take it easy. You can count to ten, make a fewdeep breaths. Calm down, proceed to parse flights. Find out the reason for the misconduct of the child. Explain why you are so upset by his behavior. It may be that the child behaved so not specifically, unconsciously.
Raising a child is a great work. Only patience, perseverance, love, attention and care will help you raise a good person from a child!
Do you punish your child somehow?
