The role of the father in the upbringing of his son

In our time, social confusion does not allowparents to educate their children in the narrow framework of a single craft. Practice has proved that modern society is more willing to consume people with a broad outlook and a variety of practical skills. There remain two questions: where to get them and why are they so few? The problems of adolescents at the end of the last century could be attributed to "times of great upheaval".

What kind of upbringing would there be to survive, and that's good. But why do psychologists find so many problematic and borderline deviations among modern boys? Please note that children of the 21st century are being raised and educated by parents who are already well-established, often educated, without much material concern.

Dads make money, their mothers willingly spend, neither inthan not depriving kids, and boys grow up some kind of uncommunicative, nervous, all dissatisfied. Like everything they have, and they are already by the age of ten become somehow "ill-bred." Mom gave them all the strength, fed, comforted, treated. True, then the career, their problems, and life should be happy, and, in its own way, it is right. A rare mother is able to give his tomboy a comprehensive male worldview.

So, something in the upbringing of these boys missedtheir fathers? Everything can be. A son who has not received a full emotional communication with his father in the first years of his life loses half of the life experience that he has given back to him. So, we need to do something before it's too late. Do not pretend to the novelty of the proposed educational measures, just try to classify them.

Attention and communication

This unity should begin from the first days. In what form it will be expressed, it is not so important. First, dad will talk, and son listen, then vice versa. Most importantly, at the moment when the initiative passes to the youngest by rank, do not interrupt it, try to genuinely understand his questions and problems and not get out of the image of a wise mentor. You can talk about everything, between men of secretsno. Confidential relations with the father, which are laid in the first years of life of the baby, will allow in a dozen years to avoid many difficulties of transition age.

Games and toys

Kids learn the world through the game. For them, this is a means of knowing the world around us, and a way of communicating with it. Toys should not be bought, they need to play with your son, even if you do not have the strength and time. Any coolest radio-controlled helicopter without your participation in its launch will firstly lie in the closet, then in the garbage can. In this case, two pieces of wood, with which you play with your son in a war, will be remembered for life.

And the young dad, not played enough in childhood,will be able to fully stretch to the same extent this applies to games. Teach a little boy to play checkers, backgammon, dominoes, a fool and poker - this is also the duty of the father. And in any other desktop and computer games in which you understand something. When the boy starts to win from you, you will understand that all this did not in vain.

Joint rest and entertainments

The parents themselves have already learned this. There are almost no places for the son in these relaxation zones. What can the head of the family do? If he wants, then anything. True, the initiative can be partially shifted to women's shoulders: going to the movies, theaters, museums are rather tedious. But every father should take his son to the circus, zoo, football or hockey.

If you add family visits to these activitieson nature and in fascinating overseas travel, then the external entertainment program should be recognized as sufficient. There remain home festive events, of which, in fact, family traditions are formed. What they will, in many ways depends on you.

Sport and a healthy lifestyle

The most difficult category of the father's contribution toupbringing. There are four things that need to teach a boy: to ride a bicycle, swim, climb trees and beat a flying ball. It's good for the fathers, who themselves went through a yard and village school in their childhood. They still remember how to dive swallow and climb on the birch.

The rest will have to learn. In fact, in families that promote active rest, there is no difficulty with physical education of a little peasant. You can go skiing or kayaking, tobogganing in a nearby ravine or snowboarding in the Alps, if only the child saw it and participated in it. Badminton and table tennis are suitable for dacha conditions, and billiards is recommended for the laziest daddies.

Common hobbies

Any hobby that is dear to you is easyturn into a source of common family interests. Are fond of fishing, mushroom hunting or bathing ceremonies - take your son with you. Love cars or horses - go together to the garage or to the racetrack.

Passionately collect postcards orAmerican money - let the boy as much as possible participate in this process. Those fathers who will fulfill at least 30% of our recommendations will be able to honestly look in the eyes of their son: "I brought you up like this!"

Author: Katerina Sergeenko