Manipulation in communication

Some can deny and claim that they will not under any circumstances manipulate others. But it only seems so. Actually manipulation of people comes to our rescue in all aspects of life. Do you want the child to take the medicineor did lessons to get the husband to take out the trash can or the buyer in the store chose the more expensive thing, in all these situations you have to resort to different ways of manipulation. And depending on the age, social status of your victim and your own intentions, you can resort to positive or negative manipulation in communication.

Naturally, if you do not have any evil intentions about your interlocutor, then any manipulation will be positive. So, to persuade the child to drink a bitter medicineit is easy, if to him to promise sweets then sweets. In this situation, you manipulate the child, but the manipulation itself is positive. You want your child to recover faster. But if the purpose of manipulation is to deprive a person of his property by force, then your actions can only be called negative.

There are different ways of manipulating people, but they all boil down only to to hurt your victim for a living. If your words do not cause any emotion in a person, then you can not manipulate it. We can consider some of the ways of manipulating a person's consciousness.

Accidental leaks of information - this is a very simple technique of manipulation, when you tell an interested person that you have heard a rumor concerning your victim. In contrast to this technique, it is possible to supply a technique withholding part of the information. In this case, you have full information, but for you it is beneficial that the victim knew only a part.

And how do you technology "Innocent" blackmail? In this case, you can remember your victim that she owes you something. The point is to subordinate a person to yourself and cause him to feel the need to do something for you. Engineering demonstrating weakness and helplessness many women are used to perfection. But here the men themselves are to blame, as they are accustomed to call women a weak gender and be proud of their own strength and skills. So it turns out that practically in any organization there is such a "weak and defenseless" person who can not do without the help of a strong and intelligent man.

As you can see, all manipulations in communication are aimed at affect any person's feelings. In other words, you need to find the slack. And such a weakness can only be a feeling: love for a man (very often used in families for manipulating a child), fear (this is the most beloved and common method of manipulation in all spheres of life), a sense of self-doubt, guilt, pride, vanity, feeling pity. If you correctly find the weakness of a person, then it will be very easy to manipulate them.

Naturally, do not think that you can manipulate anyone. As in hypnosis, manipulation in communication is not amenable to everyone. People who do not succumb to emotions are well opposed to manipulation. But you can use various techniques,which will help you resist manipulation. The main thing here is to recognize that you are being manipulated. And to make it easy enough. Try to follow the emotions that you have in a particular situation. If you are praised, and for some reason becomes embarrassed or scared, it means, on the face of trying to manipulate your consciousness. In the future, just stay away from the explosion of emotions and react to the word manipulator in a way that he does not expect.