Difficulties in communication

Specialists on communication problems share difficulties in communicating in two groups. The first group is subjective; they are experiencedone of the interlocutors, but not always obvious to the other and may not manifest itself in the specific situation of communication. The second group is objective; they manifest themselves in a specific situation of communication, are obvious to both interlocutors and prevent them from achieving their goals, leaving a feeling of dissatisfaction with communication.

An example of subjective problem in communication is shyness. And to objective difficulties include difficulties that are related to the level of communicative literacy of one or both of the interlocutors.

Difficulties in communication can be caused the four main groups of causes. These include:

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  inadequate assessment of the communication partner;
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  inadequate self-esteem;
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  use of unsuitable methods of communication;
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  setting unrealistic goals of communication.

The difficulties caused by the first two groups of causes are often subjective, while the second group of causes usually leads to difficulties of an objective nature.

How to solve problems in communication? The solution of any problem begins with the definition of its causes. You need to understand what exactly is causing yourdifficulties in communication, and then fight them - if it is in your power. You can cope with the difficulties for which you or both of you are personally responsible, but if the problems are caused by the behavior of the second interlocutor, there is little you can do if he does not want to meet you.

It is very difficult to give universal advice to those who want to cope with difficulties in communication. List of problems arising in the process of communication, and their causes are very long, each of the problems can be devoted to a separatearticle. Someone normally communicate is hampered by shyness, and someone - too much talkative. Someone does not know how to formulate his thoughts concisely and clearly, but someone is not good at listening and hearing the interlocutor. Each of these problems must be addressed in its own way.

Generally speaking, in order to to avoid the most difficulties in communication, you need to develop your ability to communicate. Communication is not just a mutual exchange of phrases; very important is the non-verbal component of communication - not what the interlocutors say, but how they say it. Pose, gestures, facial expressions, intonations - all this has a great influence on the outcome of communication.

Often difficulties in communication arise because one or both of the interviewees are neglected elementary rules of conversation, starting with the choice of the topic of conversation and literacy and purity of speech. These rules seem to take something for granted, and that's why they are often overlooked.

To prevent barriers in communication, it is important to remember that at least two people participate in communication, and the success of communication depends on all the interlocutors. Successful communication is built on respect for communication partners - this is the most important thing you need to remember.

The above tips deal mainly with objective difficulties. Subjective problems in communication, as we have already said, have their own, and therefore the approach to their solution must be individual. If you can not cope with your problems on your own, do not be afraid to contact a specialist: the ability to ask for help is not at all a sign of weakness, as many think. In order to realize your problem and take up its solution, you need a lot of courage.