Emotional communication

Some associate communication exclusively with speech, but this is the wrong approach: a person begins to communicate long before he learns a coherent speech. Therefore, we can conditionally distinguish two types of communication: verbal and emotional communication.

The need for communication with the child appears at the age of about one to two months, long before he begins to master speech. Since the first months of life, the child begins to use emotional communication, while the verbal language of communication he begins to develop at the age of about a year.

Emotional communication is communication through facial expressions, gestures, postures, intonations. In infancydirect emotional communication between the mother and the child (physical contact, voice intonation, a smile addressed to the child, etc.) is very important, as it helps to establish a stronger bond between the mother and the baby.

The task of the mother (or other close person who cares for the child) - as much as possible to satisfy his need for emotional communication. Direct-emotional communication givesthe child's joyful mood, increases his activity. In addition, emotional communication provides the basis for developing the child's perception, thinking, and speech.

Over time, the child learns speech, but thisdoes not mean that it's time to say goodbye forever to emotional communication. In the context of communication between adults, emotional communication often implies This kind of communication, in which the leading in the process of communication is the exchange of emotional information.

In principle, this does not contradict what was said above: in the emotional exchange an important role is played by nonverbal communication means (facial expressions, gestures, postures, intonations).

Emotional communication in this case consists of their three main components: cognitive, subjective and expressive. Under the cognitive aspect, they meanperception of feelings and emotions by communication partners. The subjective aspect is the experiences caused by interpersonal relationships. Expressive aspect - an expression of emotion in relation to the partner in communication (both verbal and non-verbal).

Sometimes emotional communication is presented assome way of manipulating people. Some people do use this kind of communication to manipulate others. As we have already said, this type of communication is primarily used for the exchange of emotions, including through facial expressions and gestures. However, if you can express emotion through a gesture or facial expression, the opposite is also possible: Use a facial expression or gesture to create the impression that you are experiencing a certain emotion. This is manipulation.

How not to get caught on this hook in emotional communication? For the recognition and understanding of both foreign and their own emotions, the so-called emotional intellect answers. The higher the level of emotional intelligence of a person, the less likely that it will be circled around the finger with emotional communication.

In order not to become a victim of a manipulator, you need moreattention to the language of the body of the interlocutor. The fact is that some physiological reactions, accompanied by emotions, a person usually can not suppress (at least instantly) or simulate. These include, for example, the response of the pupils, the frequency of respiration and pulse, and so on. Therefore attention should be paid not only to gestures and facial expressions that a person can use consciously, but also to those signals that are virtually beyond control.

So, emotional communication is most important in infancy, but even after we master speech, it continues play a significant role in our relationship with the surrounding people.