How to determine that a person is worried?

Nerves, nerves and nerves are the cause of all our troubles. When you do not have to be nervous, we beginto experience without reason. And worse, when we are nervous about the mere trifles. So, remember the student years, when you had to take some exam. It does not matter how much time you spent preparing for the subject, but before the exam itself, you start to worry: what if you fail, and if you get a question that you can not answer? What then? But you literally yesterday were sure that you were well prepared. And this situation was repeated literally before each exam.

Of course, now you think, what was then to worry about such trifles as the exam? In fact already now there are reasons for excitement,for example, an interview or work at a job. Tomorrow there will be other reasons for the excitement. And the day after tomorrow, when you find a way out of this situation, you will look at everything with a smile and think, but should you worry about such trifles at all?

Of course, it was not worth it. But to overcome the feeling of unrest in those moments is simply impossible. And now try to turn the whole situation upside down and imagine that this is not you have some exciting moments in life, but your interlocutor. Imagine what it is now? Agree, I should say a couple of soothing words when you need it, but here is the understanding that the person sitting in front of you is very worried, comes late. So what do you do? How to determine that a person is worried?

The ability to identify the excitement of a person is very necessary for everyone who works with people: teachers in universities and teachers in schools,recruiters in companies. All these people need to know exactly when a person is worried, to relax the situation a bit, to translate the conversation into another direction. In general, the person should be reassured, because because of the feeling of excitement, a company can lose a valuable employee, and a capable student will simply fail the exam.

You can not accurately describe the signs of human excitement, because they each appear in different ways. The only thing that can help you is this observation on the behavior and gestures of a person. Knowledge of the body language will help to determine the excitement of the interlocutor.

So, excitement can give out constant movements of hands. For example, if your interlocutor startsconstantly twist a pen or pencil in his hands, a button on his jacket, this is the first sign of excitement. But playing with a pen or pencil can also talk not about the excitement of a person, but about his extreme degree of attentiveness. In this small movements of the hands occur arbitrarily, since this is an acquired habit.

Therefore, you should look not only at the movement of the hands, but also at their trembling. Many people, when they are worried, start to tremble. In this case, not only the hands tremble, but also the voice. If you hear any changes in your voice (especially when it gets higher or harder), then your interlocutor worries.

Pay attention to the eyes. A fleeting glance is not only a sign that you are being lied to. Running gaze, the inability to constantly look at one point and a more active face mimicry - this is another sign of excitement.

By the way, often a person tries to hide his excitement, so you will not see a trembling of hands and a glancing look. But there are other signs of unrest. So, it can be nervous walking. If you have the opportunity to take a worried man by the hand, then you will feel that he has wet palms. True, sweat palms can not only because of excitement, but still such a sign is observed in many.

But everything is exactly the opposite. If some excitement makes you almost panic, then others fall into a stupor. This is even worse than a shiver in the voice and hands. Although stuttering, but a person can say something. And a man in a stupor can not but say a word, he will not even move. And to perceive such behavior as an insult and unwillingness to answer your questions is simply meaningless. You should at this moment enter the position of the interlocutor and understand how much the person this situation seems to be significant and important, that he is so worried about you.