Unmanaged child

Almost all parents sooner or later they complain about the periodic "unmanageability" their children: a child throws toys, does not obey, can throw a tantrum. But such, rather rare, phenomena are not dangerous. After all, often such uncontrollability is just a stage of becoming and growing up a child. It happens that such children are quietly and obediently behaving in kindergarten, in public, and at home they turn into small tyrants and literally plague the whole family. Then, most likely, the child feels his impunity and simply does not want to follow the rules and requirements of adults.

For hyperactive the child's state of uncontrollability is familiar. Such a child really can not restrain himself, even if he strongly wanted to. A hyperactive kid chaotically switches from one subject to another, which happens to be in his field of vision accidentally, and no one does it to the end. The child often responds inappropriately, without pondering the meaning of the questions, does not listen to what is being said to him.

This behavior is not the whim of the child, but is associated with the peculiarities of his psyche and physiology. Hyperactive children are usually diagnosed with MMD(minimal brain dysfunction). These are residual effects of organic brain damage. It occurs either when the child was still in the womb (for example, with severe toxicosis or Rh-conflict), or during childbirth, or because of severe illnesses in the first months after birth.

Hyperactivity is a disease, although its symptoms are not similar to the "classic set" of the patient. It means that hyperactive child needs treatment. Will this treatment be medicated orpsychological-pedagogical, depends on the cause of hyperactivity. If there are organic disorders in the work of the child's nervous system, then drugs can not be dispensed with. But even in this case, the patient and persistent inoculation of the rules of behavior to the child is not abolished.

How do parents behave with an uncontrollable child?

An uncontrollable child is a storm and chaos, so parents need try to maximize the order of life and inner peace your baby. Hyperactive children simply need a strict regime of the day. You can even hang out on the wall a detailed schedule, which the child should perceive as something that is beyond his will or the will of his parents.

But when scheduling, parents should take into account the features of your child, sometimes he just can not fulfill the demandor request immediately. Therefore, one must reckon with the fact that such a child will have to repeat his request several times. In this case, it will be useful to inform the child about your demand in advance. For example, you can warn the child that in 20 minutes it's time to finish the game. After 10 minutes, warn him again. Then, by the appointed time, he will be ready to finish his game, and the parents' nerves will remain intact.

Parents of an uncontrollable child need to get used to communicate with the child in a measured way, soothing tone, without irritation. Otherwise, in the family, where both parents and children are born with a half-turn, constant exhausting scandals can not be avoided.

Overabundance of vivid impressions is harmful for an uncontrollable child. It's better when the parents notice that the baby starts overexciting, to offer the child to go to rest, and not to wait for the beginning of the "storm". To help the child "come to life", you can ask him simple questions on interesting topics. Then the child will be forced to think about his answers and return to a calm state.

Uncontrolled child it is necessary to throw out your energy. To channel this energy into a peaceful channel will help with sports, dancing, outdoor outdoor games.