What if other children offend your child?
If you suddenly found out that your child is being hurtother children in the kindergarten or school, then, of course, your first impulse is to personally go and deal with the offenders: pour in a belt or hard talk with their parents. However, actions in a fit of anger and righteous anger can not only not help your child, but even hurt him even more. Obviously, you want to change the situation to the best for your child, but also do it with the mind.
So, the first thing you have to do is soberly understand the situation. Your child can peerfor different reasons. You have some kind of nonstandard surname that seems funny to other children, the child has defects in speech or appearance, other children consider him "unfashionable" and "uncool". All this can become an object for bullying and ridicule.
How to help the child in these situations? Well, let's put it bluntly, with a name you do not have anythingdo it, so you need to try to change not the name itself, but the attitude to it from the child and his peers. Or, for example, ask teachers to have your child more often called by name, not giving, therefore, other children a reason to mock. Defects of speech, especially at an early age, the speech therapist will solve successfully and the sooner you contact him, the more troubles and insults you will be able to avoid.
Appearance is very important for children. In the best of your abilities, try all the samebuy for the child a few "fashion" things or accessories. If your child, for example, is too protruding ears, then hide this defect will help to match the hair. If the problem lies, for example, in excess weight, then with the help of a nutritionist you can make a more healthy diet for a child, and with the help of physical exertion, the extra pounds will gradually go away. In addition, your child will not only get rid of ridicule, but will also become more healthy.
Often children become objects of constant mockery by their peers because they are weaker, more modest. You can help your child by developing in itconfidence in themselves and their abilities. And to tighten the physical form will help exercise. And not necessarily immediately give the child to the martial arts section, you can pick up another sport, for example, swimming, football, basketball, sports dancing.
At school The cause of persistent harassment can be allwhatever, up to the musical preferences of your child. In this case, it is important for you to explain to your child that he should not go on about the collective, should not change his tastes and preferences just because someone likes it. A strong, confident personality, is felt from afar and few people dare to oppress such a person or infringe.
Explain to the child that a good performance canto become a trump in his sleeve. It is not necessary for a child to be "learning" and "learning" to a child, but students with good academic achievement are always respected by the team - they know the right answers to problems and can help. Therefore, you can make efforts to improve your child's progress. Do lessons together, watch educational programs, maybe hire a tutor to pull the child up in some subjects.
When a child is hurt in a kindergarten or school, this leads to the fact that the baby refuses to go there, he has accumulated resentment and anger at his peers. The child closes in himself, feels unhappy. Some children may begin to show off, lie, mischief, or even take revenge on their offenders. Others can start with all their strength to get into the company in which they do not accept it, because getting their place in the "pack" for the child is very important. Cigarettes, alcohol, drugs - that's what such aspirations can end. And you, as a parent, should be especially careful and cautious.
Schoolchildren are particularly sensitive to parents' interference in their "private life." And if you scandal go complainingdirector or teacher, then the whole school will quickly find out about it and your child's problems can only increase. He will be teased with "mama's son" or "mama's daughter", and this again can lead to conflict. But, perhaps, a calm constructive conversation with a school psychologist or class teacher will help resolve the conflict situation.
Nevertheless, sometimes the situation is such that To transfer a child to another kindergarten or school is the only way out of the situation. But it is important for you to take care of the newplace of study the child has developed more comfortable relationships with peers. Together with the child, feel that "life begins with a new leaf" and try to make full use of this chance.
