Attention, it is dangerous !!! These 6 female habits lead to divorce
The family gives the first cracks leading to a divorce,when the relationship begins to rule the habit and routine. These two inseparable girlfriends make their way to the family quietly and imperceptibly, pulling up dissatisfaction, claims and criticism. And now the wife complains to her friend that she comes home tired, but she starts at the stove second shift. The husband, as before, does not want to help, and spends the whole evening at the TV. Began to swear often. He does not much interest, he ceased to share his news and experiences. More and more late at work and less often he has a desire to be the initiator of intimate conversations, romantic evenings and passionate nights. My husband has accumulated his car of claims.
At this stage, talk about divorce andcardinal measures. The quarrels seem frivolous, temporary or normal, and the spouses are not yet aware that the mechanism of family destruction has already been launched. Is it possible to stop it? Yes, if you act on the principle of "Find and neutralize!" So we will look for the main mistakes that we enforce with an enviable constancy in family life and neutralize their consequences. Let us consider six typical female positions that create intrafamily conflicts, and we will learn from our own mistakes how to smooth out the acute angles of the family "cornerstone".
Mistake 1. General in a skirt
You are used to rely only on yourself. The character of the leader, life tests and a stupid husband alongside brought you into a real warrior. You took the reins of the family in your hands and decide not only where to build a house, how to plant a tree and how to raise a son, but also for which football team to hurt your husband, who to be friends with and what words to quarrel with your boss. Periodically, the husband makes a voice, trying to complain about housekeeping, but who will listen to him, if he can not even cook a jelly for your mother's anniversary! Throw your general's habits and let her husband get out of the "order". A man can never become a head in a family where there is already one head with a king's crown over the curlers.
Error 2. Jealousy and total control
Any delay of the husband from work, shop or even fromWalking with a baby makes you suspicious, and you do not believe in his version of being late. It seems to you that it's not the faults that are to blame, but the other woman, not the queue in the store - and the other woman, not the children's showdowns in the sandbox - but ... So you consider your right to call your husband every half hour, falling asleep with questions and listening to the background sounds in the tube . You get irritated when the employee dares to call him in the evening, and in general, listen to each of his conversations, suspecting that this is that other woman, and he is "encrypted." Over time, your suspicions become an obsession, and you are a pathological jealousy. To correct the situation, while she did not drive you crazy and did not destroy the family, you can only one way - to trust! If a spouse really has that "other", and you are afraid that he will choose her - do not be afraid. Let him choose! Your man will not choose.
Mistake 3. All attention to the child
Your morning begins with a child - cookbreakfast, collect a briefcase, pat clothes, send them to school. Noon continues with the child - pick it up from school, take it to the tutor, write down on the pool, buy new training sneakers, call the children's doctor for a prescription for a cough. Your evening ends with a child - feed, learn lessons, study music, rehearse the role of a bunny for a theater group, answer a million children's questions, the simplest of which is why all children are brought from the hospital and your "bunny" was found in cabbage. When the baby finally falls asleep, you remember that you still have a husband, and for some reason he demands, first, stop loading the child and deprive him of his childhood, and secondly - attention to yourself and your relationship. Listen, maybe he's right! Unload the child, yourself, and remember that your husband needs no less love than your baby.
Error 4. At home, both at work
Due to its high position or inabilityleave work outside the doorstep, you continue to live working problems both during dinner, and while watching TV and even during sex. You talk so often and often about work to your husband, but he can not remember what the VAT tax is different from the personal income tax! And he does not seem to care that the young wife of your elderly boss took the business into his own hands and now he will let the old man through the world. Of course, your spouse is not indifferent to how your professional affairs are, but you should not load it with the smallest details and force you, along with you, to worry about the broken nail of the secretary. Work and so "steals" in time your family and your loved ones. Do not bring her home and do not invest in her husband's ears!
Error 5. Not a step without a report
You love and care for your husband, as a child. You want to know everything about him! Where was he? What did you eat? How much did you receive this month? And where did he spend 300 rubles, which you gave him last week? However, the spouse for some reason reluctantly answers your questions, gets angry and even lies. Your indignation has no limit! You are good to him and your family, and he is a thankless pig! You strengthen control, and where you do not want to report, you arrange your own "observation post": eavesdropping conversations, reading messages, searching pockets, tracking the route of movement, etc. And recently, and about a private detective, they began to think - why this husband began to linger for five minutes from work? Calm down! The stamp in the passport is not a legal permission for the total control of the spouse. Everyone has the right to personal, unconscious space ... and even your husband!
Mistake 6. Impeccable mistress
Your apartment looks like an operating room - cleanSterile even in the cat in the tray. A little more and all your family, including a cat, will walk in masks and shoe covers. In your house there is everything except dirt and dust. You no longer remember yourself without a rag, and your husband without a vacuum cleaner. He, of course, obediently adheres to the sterile order established in your house, but you are tormented by vague guesses that when you leave for a week to your mother, your house turns into a pub for his numerous friends with all the dirty consequences. However, after the return of a single trace of the "crime" you do not find! Husband is suspiciously happy but, most importantly, no evidence - even the cat does not dare shed, so as not to spoil the licked husband's apartment. Turn off your "Cinderella mode", otherwise the husband will never survive such sterility and go away with the cat!
