How to respond to insults of her husband
Sometimes a woman is ashamed to admit that her husband offendsher words. It seems that, in comparison with the behavior of other men, these are florets. Wives comfort themselves by the fact that each family sooner or later faces problems. Someone's spouse is addicted to alcohol, someone to young beauties, and someone's men in general constantly beat their wives. Therefore, verbal abuse many women silently suffer, turning them into a self-evident style of communication. The other extreme is to start responding to the spouse in a more rude form and transform the family life into a televised debate without censorship. How to respond to insults to her husband right? We asked this question to psychologists and made some interesting conclusions.
Prevent the cause of insults
To begin with it is necessary to understand, why your stylecommunication has changed. On the first date a man showered you with compliments, but after a few years of family life you hear from him only obscene language? So at some point you crossed the line of the permissible. To return time back now it will be very difficult, especially if the husband has long been communicating with you in a rough form. At the same time, one man should not be blamed for such treatment. After all, at some point you allowed his style of treatment, did not make comments or began to respond in a similar form.
The reason for her husband's insults can be an example of hisparents. Observe the style of communication between mother-in-law and father-in-law, draw conclusions. In your power to show by own example that with children and a beloved spouse you can speak in another way. Often the behavior of a man is related to his type of temperament.
How to behave if the husband insults?
There are three ways out of the situation:
Start insulting in return. This is a destructive way out of the situation, which will only exacerbate it. The girl is the personification of everything tender and sweet. It is not to her face to scold and point to the weak points of her husband. It should inspire, not humiliate.
Show indifference. This option suits you, if you are a hidden masochist, and bad words you even bring pleasure. In all other cases, silence will equal the acceptance of such a style of communication in your home.
Start acting. The most suitable option. Show wisdom and begin to struggle with the bad habit of your husband to offend you.
Try to understand what leads her husband out of himself andforces him to climb into his pocket for obscene words. Try to eliminate the causes of conflicts. Does the husband love the perfect cleanliness in the kitchen? Try to wash the dishes before he arrives. If you do not have time, kindly explain to your beloved that you are very tired, as there were many tasks at work, and you needed to vacuum your house.
If the spouse returns toinsults, try to gently explain that he offended you. Make him feel guilty. You can cry or walk all day sad. Tell me that you have a headache and therefore you can not cook his favorite borsch.
The last solution is to leave. Do not slam the door. Just tell your loved one that you are very tired of his grievances, you need time to gather your thoughts. Have a mom or girlfriend a week or two. Many psychologists advise writing to her husband if he has offended. In the letter you should not blame the spouse. It is worth mentioning his positive qualities, to say that you are very lucky with him, but, unfortunately, your upbringing does not allow you to be in an atmosphere of constant condemnation and abuse. You would very much like your relationship to be the same as on your first date.
Remember that women's wisdom is able to work miracles and save the most hopeless marriage. And even more so, to cope with the insults of her husband.
