How to respond to an insult
Not always people are open and friendly to each other.friend, and sometimes you have to deal with such a phenomenon as insults. Insults are always unpleasant, but for those who do not know how to respond to them, meeting with an offender can even be a reason for depression. About, how to respond appropriately to insults, tells the Land of Soviets.
To know how to respond to an insult, you need to remember once and for all: insults and constructive criticism are notsame. After all, if constructive criticism means helping a critic criticized in eliminating shortcomings, then a person who insults someone is always aiming (consciously or not) to humiliate someone else's honor and dignity, as well as demonstrate his superiority. This means that there is no grain of truth in insults, and it is impossible to take them to heart.
Insults can wear a variety of forms. So, in some cases, abusers useinsults to profanity, frankly rude words and expressions. More "subtle" insults are based on irony and sarcasm. To correctly respond to insults, you need to understand what kind of them you have to deal with.
For example, to respond to the same person,which uses obscene language, is not worth it: there is no need to go down to its level. Better in this case, either give a polite calm answer, or completely ignore the abuser. Attacks of abusers quickly stop, if they do not receive the expected storm of emotions: screaming, waving their fists, retaliatory insults.
To all sorts of taunts can also be answered with causticism. For example, if an offender with feigned care invoice notes that today you look it does not matter because of yesterday's party, it is safe to say that you are grateful for the shown attention to you, and in turn to express concern about the appearance of the offender: "It's strange, here you are at the party was not, and the view you still somehow rumpled. Look, you have circles under your eyes. "
At all today there are a lot of psychological techniques, helping to respond correctly to insults. To begin with, psychologists are advised to learn to "disassemble" offensive situations and clearly identify the offender's intentions. And then you can start making a worthy response.
So, firstly, It is necessary to understand what your quality, thing or deed wants to insult the offender in his insult. Next, you need to identify the humiliation itself. As a rule, this is either a direct negative evaluation, or a negative comparison in favor of the abuser himself or a third person.
What to do, after you have found out, why and how exactly does he want to offend the offender? It's time to fight back! For example, if you did something, andthe offender wants to reduce the value of this case, then he can say that you have used substandard means for this. A worthy response in such a situation will be the assertion that even if the most substandard means are used by you, everything will be done at the highest level.
To respond to an insult, in which the abuser wants to intentionally givea negative assessment of your actions, you can put the offender at a dead end, expressing joy and gratitude: if the offender does not like something, the others will like it for sure.
In general The basic rules for responding to insults can be described as follows:. Never indulge in mutual accusations,especially if your abuser is a person with whom you will have to come across more than once. It is also not advisable to translate an insult into a joke if your dignity is seriously hurt: both the abuser and others will think that you can "wipe your legs". To respond to insults should be calm and restrained and so that the offender does not have the opportunity or the desire to continue the conversation.
Always remember that Those who insult are in a known losing position. Sympathize with them from the heart, and then the insult will not hurt you.
