How to respond to rudeness

It is worth noting that rudeness and rudeness - this is a habitual stereotype of behavior in certain institutions or places. So, very often we are hampered by sellers, waiters,civil servants. In addition, the rudeness is often complained to drivers, because on the road there is always someone "smarter", to whom you have crossed (or better said moved) the road.

Rudeness never appears on level ground. Just so you will never be rude, sothere is always a reason for such behavior on the part of other people. And there are several reasons for rudeness. So, rudeness in the store is only due to the fact that the seller at the expense of you wants to establish itself in his position, because he feels that he is below you at the social level. The waiter in the cafe is rude only for the reason that he is already accustomed to such behavior and to the fact that they are talking to him in the same tone. Rudeness at work on the part of employees happens in the event that you are envious and want to offend. The chief is rude and rude to you, because he feels proud that he is socially superior to you.

There are more severe cases when rudeness becomes chronic. Ham specifically wants to provoke you toverbal skirmish. If he succeeds, then the winner in any case will be he, not you. You will leave with a spoiled mood for the whole day. Ham knows this and will be pleased that he managed to make you feel so bad. Moral satisfaction is what drives the boors.

So how to respond to rudeness? Each case of rudeness is individual, so universal answers for any situation can not be selected. In addition, many answers only omit youlevel ham. But you must be above him! Therefore, psychologists recommend not to enter into a verbal skirmish with a boor, if you do not want to hear such a stream of insults, which can spoil your mood, not that it's not a day, but a week ahead. But you can not remain silent either, since you will not emerge from this game as a winner.

The best way out of the situation is to use humor. Try to reconsider the situation with a sharehumor and get out of it beautifully. To do this, do not immediately respond to something boor. Because of feelings of insult and insult, you still do not answer anything sensible, so you will certainly lose. We advise you to look at the situation from a different angle and find the answer that the boor does not expect, that is, you need to joke. In this joke should be so thin that you can ridicule the behavior and words of a boor. If others begin to laugh with the current situation, then you put the boor in his place.

If you know how to protect yourself from rudeness, you will always find the best way out of this situation. If you are rude to a colleague, then responding to hima couple of times, he will fall behind you. If you constantly face rudeness and humiliation on the part of the boss, here too one can not tolerate such an attitude toward oneself. This boss must be controlled and reminded that you are also a person and you have your own sense of pride. For the fact that you show yourself as a strong personality, you will not be fired from work, but you will not be a victim of a boor. If you are naughty in a store, cafe or bar, then everything is much easier: you do not even need to answer anything to this person. Immediately contact the management of the institution. A couple of such complaints, and the person who nags you, will be dismissed.

Remember that if you are provoked into a rude response and a cry, the blame for the scandal will lie entirely on your shoulders. So never go down to the level of a boor andalways go away with a joke. Look at the boor like a cornered little child who does not know how to defend himself, so he says everything that comes to his mind. Believe me, only from this one thought will you stop paying attention to rudeness and attempts to humiliate you.