How to achieve respect?

Explanatory dictionary treats respect as respect for man, which is based on the recognition of its merits,qualities, merits, etc. In theory, in almost every person there is something for which it can be respected. But in practice, it is not everyone who succeeds in achieving respect for others. Why does this happen and how do you achieve respect?

You need to start with yourself. Very often, people around do not respect a person just because he does not respect himself. Insecurity and low self-esteem are yourworst enemies, if you want to gain respect from other people. Disrespect for yourself can be expressed in a fawning in front of other people in an attempt to prove their own worth. If you silently take offense, let people poke you - you do not respect yourself.

To begin to respect yourself, gain self-esteem and self-reliance, You need to find in yourself something for which you can be respected. Let's repeat: in each of us there is something for which he is worthy of respect. It can be a mind, a sense of humor, erudition, professionalism, the ability to cook deliciously. But do not overdo it: if you have something to respect, it does not mean that you are something better than others. Each has its own strengths.

So, with respect to yourself sorted out. The second important condition is respect for others. You will not be able to win respect for the people whodo not respect you. Often in such a situation, people occupy a managerial position (chief, teacher) who, due to ignorance, inexperience, or because of their character traits, have chosen an authoritarian management style and press on subordinates (students). Thus you can make people afraid of you, but it's unlikely to respect. Calm confidence will put people closer to you than screaming and intimidating.

Do not forget to make people around youcompliments, celebrate their achievements and sincerely rejoice at their success. Often, enjoying the success of other people is much harder than empathizing with their failures. Be sure, it will be appreciated. To achieve respect will also help openness and goodwill. In any situation be affable.

Do not let other people treat you with disrespect.. If you are trying to make fun of you, let gotaunts, rude, do not have to bear everything without resentment, give a rebuff. But in this case, in any case, one can not respond to causticity with causticity, rudeness - rudeness, shouting - with a cry. Be calm and self-confident, emphatically polite (just try to ensure that through your politeness you do not overlook sarcasm too clearly). In this case, on your background, the person who tried to nag you, will look pathetic (just like Moska compared to the Elephant). So you will be able to win the respect of witnesses of this scene.

To achieve respect, you need to deserve his deeds. We will tell, hardly you will be from the first dayrespect in the new working team. Respect will come to you along with experience and professionalism. Work hard, but do not try to jump higher than your head, compare your aspirations with your abilities. Read profile literature, be interested in new products in your industry. But do not try to demonstrate your professionalism by "omitting" your colleagues. Remember that we talked about respect for others?

Some people, trying to achieve respect,try to please everyone and say what they want to hear from them. But absolutely everyone can not be liked. Moreover, sooner or later your duplicity will open, and you will lose that respect which you have already earned. Do not be afraid to express your opinion openly: if you do this correctly, you will only be respected for having your point of view and expressing it. But do not defend it too fiercely, do not try to convince everyone around: respect for other people includes also the ability to understand and accept someone else's point of view, even if it is different from yours.

To achieve respect is not too difficult, but, nevertheless, this will have to be done with some effort. And most importantly - having achieved respect, "keep the mark", because losing it is much easier and faster than you deserve.