How to respond to a compliment

First, let's think about what a compliment is and why it is used? Plain a compliment is aimed at raising the mood of a person, while in response to it they do not ask anything. If asked, it is flattery and attempts to manipulate you. In this case, from you expect that in response to a compliment from you you can get something. It can be the execution of a task. Also, men very often flatter women in the hope that if flattery was taken at face value, then another lie will also be issued for the truth. But this is only in extreme cases, and you can always recognize flattery and a simple compliment.

But back to compliments. They can be obtained from different people. It can be your employees, friends and even strangers. Wherein To respond to compliments in communication should always be. Ignoring the compliment is allowed only inone case, if the person who complimented you is deeply unpleasant to you and you do not want to communicate with him. In other cases, you should always respond to compliments. But how to respond to a compliment to a person?

Even if you think that you do not deserve a compliment, you are deeply mistaken in this. And the fault of all your low self-esteem. Have you been praised for the work done? Do not think that you are not worthy of praise, because your diligence and well-done work was seen. Your girlfriend noticed that you look good in this blouse? Do not dismiss it and say that it is old, you have worn it a thousand times already. So, this blouse is still coming to you! Any disagreement with the compliment should be driven away from yourself. This is all the result of a low self-esteem, which does not allow you to properly respond to a compliment.

How to respond to compliments

As already mentioned, every compliment should be answered. If you do not respond to a compliment, in the future their amount will be significantly reduced. And all because of your wrong reaction.

The usual phrase "thank you for the compliment" will be enough. Do not invent anything new. Simply smile and look into the eyes of the interlocutor. It would be enough. Your interlocutor will see how much you have grown prettier, how you are in a good mood. In return, you can also say something pleasant to the interlocutor. If this is your friend, you can joke, but you can also emphasize the words of the interlocutor with your cue, which will follow the gratitude. For example, say "if you knew what efforts I was worth your praise."

In response to a compliment, never You can not speak negative or negative expressions. And do not make excuses or go intodetails. For example, you were complimented on the account of what a beautiful dress you have. Do not tell me how hard it got to you, or that you bought it on sale. You do not need to know all these details.

Also do not reply to the compliment with phrases: "Well, you, I do not deserve it," "I do not think so," "nothing special," etc. This is all in you says your understated self-esteem, which does not allow you to fully enjoy the deserved compliment.

If such situations are repeated often, and you do notbelieve that you deserve compliments, write them down. Near each compliment write, why do you think that you do not deserve it. So you can understand what exactly you underestimate yourself. And this is already the first step with self-improvement.