What are family arrangements?

Family Arrangements (System Arrangements)are used in aiding therapy. This method was introduced into a wide circulation by Bert Hellinger, a German psychotherapist, philosopher and theologian. Therefore, the technique is also known as "of the Hellinger arrangement".

The idea is that everyone has their own family system. It includes not only blood relatives, butalso people with whom a person is connected by a very strong relationship. It can include both living people, and already dead or even unborn. Some people who are part of his family system, a person may not even know.

The family system includes biological parentsa man, brothers and sisters, beloved ones, spouses and just sexual partners, children, other blood relatives. In addition, the family system includes people who are associated with a person or members of his family by the so-called "relationship of life and death". These are people who somehow influenced the preservation or deprivation of human life.

Relations in the family system are regulated by three laws (Orders of Love): the law of belonging, the law of hierarchy, the lawbalance between taking and giving. Violation of these laws and causes problems, the source of which people often can not determine. Family problems are used to identify these problems.

Classical family arrangements are a group session under the guidance of a psychotherapist. First, the client briefly describes his request(problem), on the basis of this, the therapist determines the composition of the members of the family system to start the placement. Then the therapist or the client himself chooses from the group of people who will be the deputies of his family system.

The task of the client is to place the deputies as they are located in the family system. At the same time, one needs to focus not on realrelationship and their attitude towards them, but on their own intuitive feelings. This should be done slowly, while the deputies should not mimic or pose the attitude of those they portray to the client.

This is where the fun begins. At this moment, substitutes have a so-called substitute perception, on which the family arrangements are based. The substitute begins to feel what the member of the system he is replacing feels (or once felt). It can be physical sensations, emotions, pictures and images.

A substitute can be practically anyman, just someone more sensitive to information about the prototype he replaces, and someone - less. Alternate perception can be developed by regularly participating in the alignments. The most unusual thing is that substitutive perception arises even in the event that neither the deputy nor the client knows anything about the replaceable member of the family system.

This is what becomes the stumbling block in the discussions of supporters and opponents of the constellations. The substitutive perception is explained by the existence of a single information field - an external source of information about familysystems. But traditional science (and psychotherapy in particular) can not explain this phenomenon. Therefore, family arrangements are often criticized. But at the same time there is a positive experience of people who are helped by systemic arrangements.

When the initial arrangement of figures is made, the therapist discusses with the deputies their feelings and feelings, on the basis of this, he makes conclusions about the relationship in the family system of the client. In the process of placement, the therapist can either rearrange the figures themselves, or allow the deputies to move and interact independently. So gradually the Orders existing in the system are manifested, the relations between its members are clarified.

Ideally, at the end of the alignment the problem either loses its relevance, or one can understand its meaning and find solutions. Far not always family arrangements end in complete success, but even in the case of partial success, the client rethinks the situation and begins to seek a solution to the problem.

Family arrangements appeared in the 80'sSince the turn of the century, many directions and varieties of this method have been developed since that time, developed both by Hellinger and his followers. It is impossible to call systemic arrangements 100% scientifically, but they really helped many people. The main thing is to choose a good therapist who will be able to arrange correctly.