Oh, these gossip!
Gossip in the workplace take a lot of effort and time, and also makethe situation in the team is particularly tense. But thanks to conversations on the sidelines, you can learn a lot of useful information; forget about the problems - against the background of other people's problems their own seem not so huge; know what you can expect from employees, and better understand their characters.
Of course, you can hear something that will makepretty nervous. Learning about yourself something from the discharge of the unpleasant, our first reaction is anger and a desire to avenge, while we are perfectly aware that there is no use to the offender from the spoiled nerves to himself and the muck. How to act in this situation?
First, remember that bad glory - tooglory. If you are discussed - it means that you are different from the gray mass, you are interesting to others. Gossip themselves can be harmless and not very much. Sometimes rumors are deliberately dismissed by ill-wishers with a view to removing you from your position or even getting you to leave this company. You have to be especially careful here.
Do not talk about your personal life, even if it seems to you that this person cantrust. Remember how in American films the phrase often sounds: "You can remain silent. Everything you say will be used against you. " In the struggle for raising and higher wages, a colleague whom you trust will step over you with an eye without batting, and go further, being able to deftly turn your revelations against you.
Sincere conversations in the smoking room is better replaced by talking about everything and about anything, and on provocation from the side of potential rivals and inquiries about your attitude to the policy of the company, your superiors, employees, you can simply shy away or answer that everything suits you.
In any team there are enough envious people,curious barbarians, poking their nose, where they should not, and other unpleasant people. All of them are not against messing about other people's family relationships, romantic adventures (especially if the "object" is married), material situation, source of income, career achievements, habits and behavior of the people of interest.
To protect yourself from gossip, try not to get involved in the discussion of colleagues, show your indifference to "freshnews ". Of course, this does not mean that only after hearing from the employee "Oh, girls, I'll tell you now ...", you must run, headlong, to the other side of the office. No, in this way one can gain the glory of a bore or a rigorous mole. Here you have to react delicately, just to be surprised by what you heard, but not to comment.
By the way, gossips are sometimes worth listening to. Even in the most incredible of them there is a tinya fraction of the truth, knowledge of which you can then come in handy. In addition, if they are gossiping about you, then you got a jolt to think about your behavior: somehow the rumors are caused. You can ignore the gossip, if it does not harm you and you have nerves of steel. But if rumors go beyond borders, then the main gossip should talk.
If you really fell prey to outright lies, then you must protect your honor. Preferably in public and without emotion. Witty speech is also a defense against slander, and, quite intimate, about a novel with a colleague or boss, a lover in high office. Such rumors are an integral part of office life, especially if you are a spectacular lady who achieves career heights. It's very good if you have a sense of humor - so it will be easier for you to endure unbelievable rumors and laugh at the provocative questions of colleagues.
